When I was little, I was sexually abuse/molested. The person that did it was around the same age as me, and was my cousin. This went on for longer than I can remember. He kept me from telling anyone by getting me to believe I would be in trouble if anyone found out. Finally I told my grandparents. They had gotten custody of him from his foster family, and when they found out what he had done, they feared he would do it to my younger sisters and sent him back to his foster family. I haven’t seen or talked to him in years. Just recently, my aunt got back into contact with him. All of the memories have come flooding back, and my grandma doesn’t seem to remember what happened. I have no intentions of talking to him. My aunt wants me to friend him on Facebook so we can reconnect but I refuse.
Only one of my closest friends knows what happened. I’ve been debating on telling my boyfriend, and he knows something bad happened, but I haven’t said what. I’ve only told him it was bad memories. He understands and says he’s there if I need to talk, but he’s not going to force me to tell him anything. I told him the main reason I won’t say anything is in fear of what his reaction would be. I’ve been debating on this for a few weeks now. I’ve been told by the only person that knows the whole story I shouldn’t tell my boyfriend because of what his reaction may be.
My question is, should I tell my boyfriend why I’ve been a little more stressed lately? I have no problem telling him, other than what his reaction may be. I would appreciate any opinions or advice anyone can give me.
One thing is he knows who the person is, not actually having met him but his friend request he sent me. I don’t want anything to happen if he were to come to visit my aunt and the rest of my family. So how would I go about telling him if I do?