Can stress be avoided?


i’m 17 year old and I have panic attacks and anxiety.I have my final exams coming up and I am very tensed and stressed.I wake up early every morning and ‘TRY’ to study but everyday I go to bed unsatisfied and depressed. I have been crying lately every night because I think I won’t be able to do anything in life. Everyone around me is expecting so much that I don’t want to put them down.Its getting really hard for me to talk to anyone…
I feel like giving up some times. I know I’m getting stressed and anxious but I can’t seem to do anything else
I can neither concentrate or focus(which is quite obvious).
I just need people to tell me that I can do it ):

Category: Tags: asked February 3, 2015

4 Answers

Hi Ridhi, first off I would like to say that stress is a completely normal thing to go through, especially around finals and/or midterms. As a fellow teenager with anxiety I know that getting through times that are normally horrible for everyone can be extra hard for us. I just want to say, take a deep breath and close your eyes for a second. Tell yourself that you can do this, because you can. You've taken tests a million times and you're so smart. You can get through your finals and get amazing grades on every single one of them because you are a fantastic, strong person. Its okay to cry it out some times but then you need to get back out there and just try your hardest. As long as you're doing the best that you can do, no body can say that you didn't try.
Yeah hun stress isn't avoidable. but I went through the same thing. I'm 19 and i cant go to college because i don't have the money and my dad won't let me leave home. I seem to think most of the time i wont ever be able to do anything. It's normal but you will get past this. once finals are over youll be a lot less stressed
Stress can be lessened. You decide how much it will affect your life. If you are willing to put effort into it I suggest you pick up meditation and work from there. The advice already given are also excellent.
Stress cannot be avoided. But you can help yourself to not get overwhelmed by stress by doing a couple of things:
Try deep breathing exercises for a few minutes a day. This will help not only help you relax but it'll also increase your energy and mood during the day.

Have you ever thought that studying in the morning doesn't work for you because that's not your best time of the day? Maybe you should make a schedule of when to study and for how long so that you don't feel overwhelmed. You don't have to study for more than 1-2 hours at a time.

Have you thought of listening to nature sounds at night while you're trying to sleep? You could probably download an app or find videos on Youtube for those. They might help you relax a lot more at night so that you don't feel so stressed and cry.

Also, don't worry about what everyone around you expects you to do. What do you expect yourself to do? Is it something that is within your reach? If so, that's all you need to know.

Lastly, here are a few test-taking tips to help you:
1. Being unfamiliar with a test can cause anxiety. So think about these questions:
a. How many questions does the test have?
b. What format are the questions in?
c. How much time will you have to take the test
d. How will your answers be scored?
e. What topics will be covered on the test?
f. What will some of the questions look like?

2. Negative thoughts can throw off your study schedule and distract you or make you freeze up during a test. So work on making your negative thoughts positive!
For example, instead of telling yourself that you always do poorly on tests, why not say "I've got a better study plan for this test than I've ever had before."
Or if you find yourself thinking that you're a failure if you don't pass the test, think "I'm going to pass, but if I don't, it's going to be okay. I can do better next time."

3. This may sound cliche, but eating healthy is very important. If you put junk in your body, you will feel like junk. So eat a healthy breakfast everyday. It can be as simple as a piece of toast and a glass of orange juice or grabbing a cereal bar or one of those microwavable breakfast sandwhiches. If you can't get any food, eat a peppermint. They help stimulate your brain.
For more info on test taking tips you can go to

By the way, you can do it! Believe in yourself! =)
And If you don't already, I'd recommend taking a walk for half an hour everyday or every other day. Walking is a great stress reliever and you might be able to get your friends to join in.