Can distance really make a guy realize that he has feelings for you?

Hey :) i totally get it, just in the opposite way. HE loved me to no end and i didnt feel for him in that way. So through my experience, BAD IDEA. dont distance yourself it will do more harm than good. I think he tried it and since im on the other side i can tell you how your friend will react. and it wont be good. it took us a longer to actually go out, because i thought he was pushing me away. So dont do that forsure..What you can do is, be patient. It can happen with do time, if its meant to be. If not than you just have to accept it for what it is... And i know, it hurts, it really does..for both sides. but dont ruin the friendship if its not meant...you WILL regret it more.. please dont, my friendship is gone because of his impulsiveness. And i miss him.. just be good friends and if its going to happen it will. i know its hard but, its the best option.that or be very honest with him. tell him! i know i know i knnooowww i shouldnt say that but i had to cu you want good advice so yea...but yea..i hope it works out and you do the right thing. :) live long and prosper, and good luck.

They say that "Out of sight,out of mind" ...But its also said that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" . Well, different scenarios for different cases. If you are going somewhere for a vacation, then fine, he might miss you for the amount of time you are away, but if you are talking about creating a distance in your friendship, in my opinion, it might not be fruitful. The friendship might grow weaker, and you don't want that,right? If you are planning to avoid him for a while, he might think there is something wrong and all...but it has a pretty good chance of creating a gap in your friendship. Although, the best thing you could do is to let him know, i understand you don't want to do it, and thats fine i guess. :)

absence makes the heart go fonder, but too much absence can make the heart go look for another.

I'm a guy and let me tell you. We are just plain clueless most of the time. SO unless a straight signal emanates from you, I doubt whether your friend would actually understand what are you really expecting from him. And trust me, once it is out in the open, you would get an answer definitively. Most of the guys out there are always looking for someone who loves them for what they are. He will see you in a different light once your feelings becomes clear. It might take a while for him to sort out his feelings but at least there will be closure.

You stated that your friend does not see you this way, does this mean that he knows how you feel? You can't make a person love you in a romantic way, or want to date you. Think about how you would feel in this situation. How would you feel if someone you just wanted to be friends with kept trying to find ways to get you to date them? Would you feel pressured, or uncomfortable? Would you perhaps try and distance yourself from them?

To be honest, your only option is to tell him how you feel if you don't think he views you in a romantic light and you want something more. Because until you do, you can't make assumptions on how he's feeling. Perhaps he feels the same way, and doesn't know how to approach this with you. Perhaps he is just as worried about ruining the friendship as you are. Playing games is not the way to go, it's only going to make things more complicated and difficult, and it's not a good basis to form a relationship on. Be upfront and be prepared for any number of scenarios, from him feeling the exact same way to him only wanting to be friends.

If it turns out that he's just not that interested in taking things to the next level, you may need to take some time away from him. The reality is that when one person feels stronger than the other, someone is going to get hurt and things can't remain the same. Friendship is important, but if you are finding that how you feel is making it difficult for you, especially if he's not interested, that's not fair on you, and you need to take care of yourself.

Mind, Body, and Soul made some good points, especially in having been in that situation, but at the other side (your side) it might not be emotionally/mentally healthy for you to maintain a friendship with someone you want more than a friendship with.

You can make yourself more attractive to him any anybody else. For example.. wear something a little more sexy. Maybe new hairstyle too. Try to be a little less attached to him. Make some new friends. Make him wait for response a little longer. You cannot wait for him all your life after all. Clinging to a man is very unattractive and boring. Make him wonder if he is still interesting to you. Just do it in subtle fashion. If your body say you need him, all this won't work. Sadly, most boys suddenly realize they love a girl when she is gone.