Brother caught boyfriend and I


Basically my brother came into the house while my boyfriend and I are “busy” up in my room. We tried to get dressed.but weren’t quick enough Nd my brother saw us half naked and kicked my boyfriend out and gav me a speech. I don’t know how to really DEAL with this. I have talked to my brother about how I love my boyfriend and how he was my first for a reason and I managed to get him not to tell our parents. He’s really an amazing brother he just doesn’t want meto ruin my future and see me get hurt but I know I disappointed him and I feel TERRIBLE so how do I deal with this? Any advice?

Category: asked January 2, 2015

4 Answers

Your bodily autonomy is not for others to dictate or control. You are your own person and there is no one on this planet who can tell you who you may or may not have sex with except for you.

Your brother is not your keeper. You don't owe anyone any explanation. Never apologize or attempt to justify what only comes naturally. Stand up for yourself and assert your rights as a human being.
The idea that brothers or male family members have a right to "protect" female family members' virginity is gross and creepy. You have the right to sleep with whoever if that's what both of you want.
Stay with what is in an individual can not change an opinion of another. Be careful. <3
Evaluate his reasons for you to not sleep with your boyfriend. Are they specific to that boy? Or are they more general? Both categories can hold very valid points. Understand him in order to know what you need to do to fix the problem.