Boyfriend searching up ex-girlfriend

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I am in 4 months coming into 5 months with my boyfriend now. 2 or 3 months before we got together, he broke up with his ex-girlfriend of a year plus because she cheated on him. The ex girlfriend prior to the one before me also cheated on him.

I have asked him before if he still has lingering feelings for his ex or occassionally thinks about her. He said no. I found search histories with him searching her up at least once a month however sometimes several times a week. Is it normal or should I be concerned?

Ive found him hiding truths deliberately not only of his relationships but other things such as smoking and such. I cant help but be bothered.

Category: asked November 10, 2014

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Sometimes people look up their ex to see how their life is going. For example if they are in a new relationship and to see what's going on in their lives. Sometimes it's because they still care about their ex or in other cases it can be to see how low someone has sunk. Very rarely I tend to look up on of my exes, but I don't feel anything for them anymore. However several times a week can mean that your boyfriend still has some feelings for her. It still doesn't have to mean anything though. Feelings don't just go away so easily, even when someone has been cheated on. It's not good that he lies to you about smoking and other things, but I can understand why he'd tell a little lie about his ex because he might think you'd think more of it if he'd tell the truth. Also, you should respect his privacy and not dig into his browser history, this is poison for a relationship. A relationship is about trust, he won't be happy if he knows that you're checking up on him. About the other lies, you should try to have a talk with him and point out that you'd like him to be honest. Good luck.
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I think a lot of that is because he doesnt want you to worry. He probably cares about you a great deal and wants you to be happy with him. I may be wrong but this is just my take. I think he may still think about his ex's occasionally but I also believe that he thinks about you a lot more. I don't he would leave what he has, or even think about it, for someone who hurt him. As a guy myself, it is natural to think about what could have been between you and an ex. But every time I do I also realize that the contrast between the relationship i was in(the ex) and the one i am in now is amazing. I think he and I both are smart enough to realize what we have now and how it is much better than what we had before. That said, be careful and consider talking to him about it. You can clear everything up and it will stop any problems from happening in advance.