boyfriend a advice?

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My bf is constantly playing games on his computer or xbox…I like playing games too, but his is a little out of control….it is the first thing he does when he wakes up, and when he gets home from work, and he will play from the time he gets home (ranging from 5 or 9) and play till midnight or later…I don’t always confront him about it, only occasionally and it’s because I want to go out and have fun together or do SOMETHING together instead of sitting inside when are off work or get out from work early (both of us work) and then he yells at me and says I am too clingy and to leave him “the fuck alone you clingy bitch.” But when he needs something or wants attention, I have to stop whatever I am Doing….

(I don’t want to create another post) also, whenever we fight he calls me a lot of bad names…such as: count, bitch, slit, who’re, etc. And he throws stuff at me or pushes me. And a lot of things are “my fault” like if anything bad happens it is cause of me. I also can’t talk to him about how I feel because he just turns it into a huge fight…or if he does something wrong like lies about who he is hanging with or talking to, he somehow turns it around back on me, and makes me feel like shit.

If I try to engage him sexually, he usually blows me off…unless he wants to…sex is usually about him and his needs, not mine.

Been together 2 1/2 years…all has happened gradually or suddenly.

asked September 6, 2014

7 Answers

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Actually, after reading that again... JUST LEAVE HIM. He is ONLY abusing you and using you.
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First, relationships take effort from both individuals, so right there, you have a problem - HIM!

Second, any man that calls her girl a "clingy bitch" doesn't not deserve a girlfriend period. Hey, take his advise. Leave him alone. Don't bother responding to him, answering his calls or doing anything at all for him.

Third, this guy is abusive! Okay, I need to be a little harsh on you... wtf! Do no put up this crap! What are you thinking? Does this sound healthy in any way to you? Look around. Find some other relationships. Do others act like this. No. You do not deserve to be treated like this. This is a no brainer... leave him!

Last, he just sounds like a very selfish a$$hole. Sorry. But that is what I'm picking up. I don't care if its been 1 month or 10 years. A man that treats you like that doesn't deserve you.

Btw, I do believe in working through problems. So I definitely say leave the guy. If he comes to his senses, tell him he has to go to counseling. Then after awhile, when the counselor feels the time is right, you both go. That is the only way of salvaging this relationship in my opinion.
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Ok. From what you are saying, this is NOT a relationship. This is a WHATEVER HE WANTS HAPPENS. If he doesn't change BY HIMSELF, you have to leave him ASAP otherwise it will only get worse and affect you physically, emotionally and in every way.
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Please leave this guy. He is a self centered, abusive jerk. You deserve to be treated better than that. No matter how much you may think you need this guy, you don't. Someone who loves you would never treat you like that. You can find someone much better. someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve. You are a beautiful person, don't let someone take away that beautiful soul that you are.
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First of all any man who can talk to you with that much disrespect doesn't love you as much as he says he does. And he is with you because he knows you won't go anywhere and that you will put up with his shit. He takes advantage of you trust me i know the type i was in a relationship just like yours. The guy i dated would say hurtful things to me too. It got so bad that he literally became a champion at lowering my confidence. Same with your boyfriend. He will try to lower your confidence any chance that he gets just so he can make you feel like you are unwanted in the world. To be honest its totally normal for guys to play video games for hours on end and maybe what you could of done was actually join in. Some guys really like it when their girlfriends will grab a controller and play a round of call of duty with them. But since he is abusive i doubt that would work. I would suggest that you think your life with him carefully. Make a list of pro's and con's about him.. If there are more cons than pros.. well then he isn't right for you.
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Leave him. Sounds like a jerk.
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Leave him girl! There is no helpin that man.... I take that back! There is no helping that boy cause any male that disrespects a female wether physically or emotionally does not deserve to be called a man at all!!!