I’ve been in a 2year+ relationship with my boyfriend. Most of our fights revolved around his pessimism and jealousy. He is a very loyal boyfriend, but when something triggers his anger, I can’t stand to be around him a majority of the time we are okay but our problems occur with me going out with friends or in social settings but unpredictably so maybe every other few months. He would shut down or become really rude to me . This caused him to later realize that he was an asshole and apologize to me , apologize , and we would make up. Because of this I was hesitant to bring him anywhere with my friends or even on my 23rd birthday when I went to Las Vegas.
2 weeks ago while I was on a week vacation with my sister, he had an epiphany. He realized what he had to do on improving his life and let go of all his anger. I came home to a much happier man. He was going out with his friends, he realized that he didn’t want to be an angry/jealous guy anymore. He said he won’t let whatever I do bug him anymore and he wants to do well in school, find a better job, move out of his parent’s house, and not bring drama to our relationship.
He said that week of me being gone was life changing. Now he asked me to respect his wishes of giving him a one-two month break so he can focus on improving his life career wise. He said because I am about to graduate college and have my own personal career going, he wants more to show for himself. This break is so he can focus on himself with no distractions.
He promised that nothing will change expect seeing each other. He will call me, he will continue to tell his family, friends, and even strangers he is in a relationship. And for me not to worry because he still loves me, willalways love me, and because we have been through so.much wouldn’t want to throw our relationship away. He wants to come back with more to offer me.
My concern is that he will fall out of love with me. He will enjoy his independence too much. Realize he is happier without me or even talk to another girl. I am scared this break is just am easy way for him to let me ho and be his own man. I know he will be OK and I will be left hurt and unincluded.
