Best friend commited suicide.. Help..


It was May 11th, 2012. I was out, not able to talk to her. And when I had the chance to talk to her, I found out she overdosed.. We helped each other through everything. We were each others reasons for being happy. No need for a significant other or anything, just one another. I still can’t get over it. I could have stopped it. She could still be alive if I wasn’t so damn stupid at the time and ruining my life. I just want to be happy, and it keeps dragging me down. I’m so lost without her. I just need some way to let go but still remember it without becoming upset..

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3 Answers

Just know that whatever happened is not your fault. If it happened it might would have happened anyway. Would she really want you to live with this guilt?
I'm not going to spout consoling cliches at you. You know that people telling you it wasn't your fault doesn't make you believe that. I've been through it. The solution is to sit down and talk everything out with somebody. Preferably someone who knows what the hell they're talking about and can argue with you about the guilt point by point. A therapist is an option, if it's a good one. Most aren't. I'll offer to listen, but I'm not exactly professional quality.
I'm so sorry about your friend. I guarantee you that you made your friends life better for being their for them when they needed you. You were someone they could talk to and I can't stress how much of a difference that can make in someone's life. You did a very beautiful thing. Please do not feel guilty or responsible because it is not your fault for what happened. I know how easily it can feel that way. I would talk to a therapist or a friend about what you are experiencing through this loss to help you be more at peace. Keeping these painful feelings inside can really eat away at you and cause your guilt to grow. Know that you were a light in your best friends life and helped make their life better when it was very bad. That is an absolutely amazing thing. Please do not underestimate the good that you did. Much love to you and I'm so sorry for your loss.