My best friend started dating her first boyfriend at the end of her junior year in high school. He was her first everything – kiss, sex, love – all the good stuff. They would constantly bicker, but just because they were both so stubborn. Eventually, however, it started to pile up and I could tell the situation was unhealthy. Often she was unhappy, but couldn’t bring herself to leave him. They graduated and went to the same college and then relationship continued in that way. He became more and more abusive, everything except physically, but she wouldn’t let go. During one of their break-up periods, she tried to kill herself for multiple reasons. The experienced traumatized her, and she would never try it again. But after it happened, her ex (finally) would say the meanest things about her attempt such as, “I don’t want to worry about dating a girl who will ‘off’ herself” or “I was so worried because my life would have been over…they would have seen the text messages I sent you and blamed it on me.” He’s literally the worst human. Now, she recognizes it, but part of her still can’t let it go. She had sex with him recently and hated herself after. She knows all the awful things he did. She gets it. But she just can’t/won’t detach herself. I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to set her up with a close friend of mine..but I worry that that relationship is just going to get messed up if something comes up with her ex. I love this girl dearly. She’s so smart and strong…except when it comes to him. Help.