Hi there
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year as a half and feel I have out up with a tremendous amount but love him too much to ever say anything in fear I will lose him.
Into early stages of our relationship I had an unplanned pregnancy and lost the baby which he realt wanted however when I was pregnant there were many rumours he had cheated with his most recent ex girlfriend. He admitted he still loved her but hadnt cheated. I feel as though I quashed these rumours without evolving any truth in the matter. This being down to the fact I loved him too much too soon.
Over time he started showing his tue colours and became very meanly abusive calling me ‘useless/stupid/bad in bed and self involved’. I cannot comment on whether I am bad in be as I don’t know but I’m not self involved and do absolutely everything I possibly can to make him happy. He called me this as I make mistakes when he orders me about such as forgetting to butter both sides of his bread or something silly like that. He says that his attitude is because he had a bad childhood and no real father. I fail to see why I should be treated badly because of that.
I have caught him texting/talking to other girls through text/email which he says are just friends. He breaks up with me a lot but calms down and wants me back, I of course run back every time of it isn’t me crying to save the relationship anyway.
He tells me he hates his life and he’s unhappy which I try and improve by buying him little presents, booking is a holiday, making sure he always has dinner ready, never nagging/moaning and showing interest in his hobbies but he still says the same thing. He has an aggressive personality with a short fuse and a well known temper that people will go out of there way to avoid dealing with. However I have to deal with it as his partner and living with him. He begs me for a family but gives me no confidence he will be a goo partner to me.
I know I am looking for an answer that gives me hope he will change and love me more but Deep down I know the answer is to man up and leave but I’m too scared to be alone but more so to see him with someone else living out our future. It’s breaking my heart and making me depressed as I feel I have no self confidence or strength to stand up for myself.
Have you any advice?
