Bad (but fun) habit I need to drop

Okay…I would say my WORST habit is Facebook creeping on this guy that I used to date. He was my first boyfriend and I really wanted to make it work, but to be honest, he was nasty. I don’t know, I think there was something emotionally or mentally peculiar about him. He never had a formal diagnosis, but he would be so nice and intelligent and then he would just be a different person. He would scream and throw things like he was a child having a tantrum. In middle school, he stabbed a girl with a pencil and in high school he flipped a music stand and hit some girl in the face accidentally.

So long story short, my secret obsession and vindication now 8 years later is watching his Facebook profile because, like clockwork, he starts a new job and quits it or is fired for freaking out on his coworkers within one month. I had never really thought about it, but my fiance was like…”Okay, he is a huge –s and he deserves what he gets, but you’re being kind of creepy.”
Is this normal? Because now I feel like a REALLY BIG creep? But I’m really intrigued and I do wonder what he is going to do with his life. I know what’s going to happen but I just really can’t stop myself. I’ve blocked him, but I always find myself unblocking him at the end of the month to see what he’s up to.

Category: Dating & Relationships asked May 4, 2014

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andidear

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It's not creeping if you read his social media profile every month. There's a reason why he's posting it, and there's a reason why social media was even created, to keep up with people. I think that as long as you start thinking about keeping up with your fiance's life and small details and begin to only check up on your first bf's every month or so then you'll be feeling perfectly normal in no time. In fact, it may be fun to check out your old bf's life with your fiance.In the end, remember to keep your fiance feeling more important than this low life that you find yourself checking up on because you don't want to lose what you have for something that isn't worth it.Good luck! :D

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Alex

It may not be creeping because Social Media is meant to be seen but it seems to be hurting your current relationship and effecting your life. Very simply, you are keeping a negative person in your life. It doesn't matter that your reason is to see how crappy his life is because it will ultimately rub off on you a little at a time. It may not seem serious but negativity hurt everyone, even the spectators.

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Ian176

Well, some habits are hard to break. Sometimes I find myself Facebook stalking my first boyfriend. I always wonder, because I was his first too, if he ever thinks about me the way I think about him. I do understand though, that it's been 10 years and I don't think he is ever going to post something about me. Try to go people watching and think about how their lives are going to turn out. It helps to focus on someone who isn't a particular guy you know.

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american demon

Honestly it sounds like he may be manic-depressive. But I wouldn't worry about your old boyfriend much. Your fiance is with you now, and when you get married you don't want to look at it because he may suspect you're cheating or whatever. Every couple of months may be better than once a month.

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mini_beethoven

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