My dad and my mom separated when I was 8, and after the divorce, my mom moved my brother and I across the country when I was 10. It was a really difficult time period for my family, lots of financial struggles, lies, etc..
I guess ever since then, I’ve had no interest in getting married. Most end in divorces anyways. But my mom practically raised us alone, and the three of us are super close. I rarely see my dad, only talk to him every once in a while. So a father figure never played a huge role in my life. I personally just can’t see myself getting married. I want to have a family like the one I have, because my mom did this super job of raising us like she was our friend. We came out to be a couple of pretty successful kids, doing what we do. And my views on parenting and things differ from most people, especially in my current relationship. And there’s so much pressure in my relationship to marry him and have kids with him and take his last name. I really don’t want any of that. I love him, but I don’t want marriage to ruin our relationship like many marriages have done. Marriage ruined my family. I want like… a forever engagement. But there’s so much pressure from him and society and his family to get married and have kids. Am I wrong for not wanting that?