I recently found out that I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. There is a lot of misleading information online about the disorder and it generally carries a really negative stigma. The diagnosis helps me understand why I’m struggling with a few things, but I’m still feeling really overwhelmed. I was wondering if anyone has dealt with BPD either personally or through knowing someone with the disorder. I’m really battling with feeling like I’m always going to be alone because of the relationship problems. Anybody with experience?
Hey there! My aunt has BPD and her life is just fine. I'm not gonna lie and say that everything is a-okay and that nothing bad will ever happen as a result of your BPD but its not a life sentence to a horrible or lonely life. My aunt had to get some professional help and take some meds (but realize my aunt also dealt with being bi-polar on top of having BPD so her treatment isn't a perfect example of what you might go through.) You yourself will probably have to have some therapy but having BPD won't ruin your life I promise. Be able to recognize how BPD effects you personally and try your best to work around it. Don't be embarrassed to seek out help and don't let the negative stigma get to you as having BPD doesn't make you bad person. There is a lot of misunderstanding from the general audience about BPD but don't let their ignorance hinder your progress, okay? I wish the best to you and hope everything goes well.
I have BPD. I can tell you, it's rough, but definitely manageable. Once you learn the tools to cope, your life gets way easier. The one thing I can say is most people with BPD will feel things longer than others. It's a blessing and a curse. Y'know happiness? Yeah, you hang onto that for quite a while. But when someone hurts you in a really minor way, even though you physically got over it, emotionally you're not. It keeps going. I've had times where I didn't actually cry about a situation until 2 days later. Everything gets magnified. And then there's impulsiveness. You'll do something impulsive, you'll feel guilt about it, end up beating yourself up about it, and as a result of that you will have another impulsive moment and the cycle repeats. What that happens, you need to seek someone to break it or it gets dangerous. Some people self harm during that point. You might get angry at seemingly random times, or bored. You could be playing your favorite game and suddenly, extreme boredom. Everything is boring. -EVERYTHING- is boring.As long as you have the support, and people know about some of your habits, you'll pretty much be fine. Just don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
I support the answers that have been posted so far, and also wanted to say I knew a girl with BPD who successfully had it under complete control with the use of therapy only. It's not a life sentence to dysfunction, and you don't need to pour toxic chemicals into your body to keep it under control. You do need to put the effort in to control the impulsiveness and mood swings, though. They can wreak hell on your social life if you don't keep them in check. It is doable.