I have this amazing social anxiety thing, that goes nuts when I'm in public....
I'm no good in chat rooms, I never know what to say or how to say it.
I have no idea where to meet people with he same mentality as me... I don't feel superior in any way, I feel like my personality doesn't fit-in the "Meta"(Public opinion).
Thank you for your response though. :D
I completely agree with ocaptain. I f I might ask though, what you are coping with, and if you are coping alone because you dont have friends to talk to, or because you don't want to hurt the ones that you do have? I get what you said in the question, I'm just clarifying...
I feel your pain on the social anxiety thing, I've got a pretty bad case of that myself. Talking to strangers definitely helps, because you can practice what to say and how to say it without the pressure of them knowing who you are. Doing things you like or doing "productive" things can distract from the loneliness for a while, but honestly I haven't found a way to feel completely comfortable around people yet. Going to try anti-anxiety meds, see if that helps. Oh, and isolating yourself is a bad idea, it only makes the anxiety and depression much worse! (I got to a point where I didn't leave my house for weeks at a time and could not function on my own - horrible place to be!)
I'm a very awkward person myself, people can try and talk to me in public and I can go to a public place to attempt to make friends but I just sit on my phone and ignore the world. I hate meeting new people, so instead I have found comfort in my social media. My life revolves around music so I'm already always listening to my headphones, I thought why not find comfort in making friends with people who are like me. I have a personal and private account on instagram where one has family and people I associate with around my area and the other one I have no one that I personally know on there, it is followed by total strangers. People who can relate to my posts and whom I can relate with theirs.
I find comfort in this account because they don't know me, they are supportive and I can have a conversation over DM with them at any time of the day and they're all so friendly. On there, I am in control of what I do and who speaks to me... I'd rather this than people speaking to me to my face. But that's only my way, when I'm lonely I go there for friends :)
I can totally understand because even im in a situation where i feel lonely. i wish i had an answer to make you feel better but this feeling is soo sinking that sometimes its best to just stay alone and prevent people from further hurting you
Growing up, I had lots of friends but I was extremely shy and introverted and whenever I was feeling down, I didn't want to burden other people with my problems so I mostly kept to myself. See, I was lonely even though I wasn't alone. But the good thing that came out of it was that I learned to love and appreciate myself more and I found other ways to cope with being lonely, like going into art and writing poetry and really just discovering my passions and that seemed to work for me.
I dont mind being in public or talking to people but to tell you the truth I prefer being alone, im a pretty solitary and private person. However if i ever feel like going out and having a good time with people I go to a bar. In my experience its extremely easy to make friends in a bar setting.
Thank you all for your responses:I cope alone, because I have no friend or family members who "understands me" per-say...
I feel like I've been alone my entire life, yet i'm only twenty.
Days consist of: Working and being at home. That's it..
The occasional buddy will invite me out, but all we do is get high...
I can blab forever.. Point: There are 360 degrees, and I never know which way I should be facing. A little reassurance or friendly advice would be nice, but I don't have that. I'm in the dark. I get scared sometimes.
Sure I have this site and others with amazingly positive people, yet It all feels the same. It all feels automatic. This site can only cure the itch for so long. You can only help someone so much with your text.
I feel misunderstood and no one I communicate with seems to like the idea of me. I don't either.
I know I should be more positive in all this, yet I keep getting eaten up. Iv'e had one relationship so far, and from that I've learned. I truly want my one and only. I believe that's all you really need as far as companionship, just one other. To run the earth together, to love, to live, to grow. Yet the older I get the more I see, and the more I believe in my doubts.
I can't decide weather this is a cry for help or gunk on my chest..
Regardless, Thank you for reading.