anyone else have abandonment issues?

I understand, I have these problems too. I'm in constant fear that I will lose them, they will just leave, etc. A lot of people struggle with it, I struggle with it because I have dealt with it a few times in the past. So firstly, target the issue that is making you have these issues, like a past relationship for example. Realize that it's in the past and cannot be changed no matter what we do. Long distance is especially hard when you can't physically have them there. If you have good communication and trust, don't stress! Trust is a big key when it comes to these things. Maybe talk about your fear of abandonment with your partner? Talking things out and getting reassured will make you feel so much better. Best of luck to you, feel free to talk to me if you would like :)

You may feel very lost, but you're closer to your answer than you think! You said it yourself; you are dependent on him for your happiness. If you rely upon anyone or anything but yourself to be happy, you are only setting yourself up for frequent dissatisfaction. You already have the strength necessary to overcome the bad feelings you're experiencing, and you don't need him or anyone else to do it. Your brain is much smarter than your heart is. If you have a bad feeling and you pay attention to it, it will grow and grow and you're creating a self-perpetuating cycle. You must recognize the difference between your thoughts and your emotions. As long as you are kind to yourself and take a moment to pause and revisit your logical perspective when these feelings come about, you will slowly but surely get better and better at putting your worries aside and happiness will naturally take over the bad stuff! It ain't easy at first, you will feel like you're just lying to yourself. But with persistence, things will become much clearer in every aspect of your life. Of course, I'm not saying LDR's aren't riddled with loneliness, but as long as you are able to combat these feelings YOURSELF, you will be much more independent and comfortable with your relationship. I really hope this helped, even a little! Good luck!! :)

I have abandonment issues as well.. And to be honest no matter what people tell you you can never fully get over it. You can just get over it to the point that you don't think about it as often or you distract your mind with 50,000 things just so you don't have to remember it.I was adopted.. My family in general didn't want me.. So i was adopted.. And from that the hurt and pain that i feel from my parents walking away from me has actually made it alot harder for me to be in a relationship with a man. Trust plays a huge part and my dad walking out on me as if i was nothing at only age 3 took a huge impact on how i think and feel about relationships.I get that it's hard to deal with all of the scary thoughts of "what if im not good enough?" or " what if he just says he loves me and is just going to leave me?" In a relationship these are the kinds of questions that would usually come to mind. But you have to try to remember that it is only your fear. Your fear is being abandoned by people that care and love you. I have that same fear. it's always that what if factor that picks away at you. I know it's hard and to be honest with you i wouldn't lie to you about this but I have been in relationships in the past that was when my fears got the best of me and sadly those relationships ended.But they only ended out of me being scared and pestering the person that i was with and constantly fighting. So i would say to try to avoid that as much as possible and just learn to control it a bit better. But in all honesty if you approach a guy with your abandonment issues and he leaves well then he wasn't the one for you anyways. But if you can find the right guy and approach him with your fears and he is understanding that's the guy you want to be with.I have been in long distance relationships before. And i know they suck! But what i did to feel more comfortable was i asked my boyfriend if we could skype . Skype was the easiest way to go because I got to see him as often as I wanted to. Also if you both have iphones you can face time eachother :) I face timed my boyfriend when he was in florida. Seeing the person your with when your not physically there can be somewhat of a relief to you to know that everything that you have going on for you both in this relationship is still standing strong.If you have any other questions please feel free to message me and we can talk :)