I ask this for a reason, This both serves as a PSA and a question, first, the PSA. HELP people, if you know anyone who is scared of people, or afraid to leave the house support them! they would be happy to make a friend! Now, the question. Is there any way that a person with social anxiety can stop feeling lonely? I am scared of people, but my entire family hates me for not going out much. I feel defeated and i’ve given up. I need a way to meet people who have my intereests! can anyone help me do that?
personally i like the feeling of spending most of my time at home, it's my comfort zone. So as to say that going out can be a bit challenging at times but that's because of my laziness talking. I've had my share of my parents making me go out and socialize as well, way back when i was in highschool and inviting almost everyone over including my teachers i hated on my birthday party .LOL but it's not that being an introvert is a bad thing. We like a good few friend who are trust worthy and i'm lucky i found them or they found me. few but real people who would readily catch a bullet for you. Going out and meeting people with similar interests wouldn't make them your instant friends. it doesn't work that way. But it starts with a little conversation and a sincere smile. who knows your seatmate in school is gonna be your bestfriend for life, your groupmate or anyone whom you feel comfortable enough. Comfort is key as well. Same feeling you feel when your at home or in your comfort zone. a good friend feels like that. You can be your real you with them.
First of all, I would like to say that I am quite sure that your family don’t hate you. Not at all, it’s probably quite the opposite. They love you and want what they think is best for you, and that is probably why they may try to push you into going out and doing other things that you are not comfortable about. That is their way of trying to make you conquer your fears and learn to make friends. If it feels like they hate you, it’s probably only because they are worrying about you and don’t know how to handle it.
After that, i would like to say that nothing stays the same, and just because you feel lonely right now it doesn’t have to mean that you will always be lonely. Social anxiety can get better if you get the support you need. I invite you to try to take small steps into the world outside; it may be that you go out together with someone you know and trust, smiling at strangers, saying a few words to a classmate.. Small, small steps out of your comfort zone, over and over again until they start to feel less scary. If you keep doing these small things they may even at some point start to feel normal, and then you might take another small step even further. There are also other ways for socially anxious people to make friends then going out, like for example on the internet. There are lots of sites out there where you can get pen pals, e-pals, chat pals or whatever, many sites where you can find people who share your interests and feelings. It may be a lot easier for someone with social anxiety to build a friendship through mailing or chatting, and that might make you feel less lonely. I hope this helps a bit, and I wish you all the best.
I have the exact same problem. Only have one friend and others although they are earthier older than me or they live far a way.
Mixing and Socializing is hard for me to do. It's like I open my mouth and I'm never heard or I feel so out of place from ones who don't understand me.
I have the confidence to be myself and you should just try and build up that confidence too.
People that seem to offend you for who you are aren't people you need to pay attention to ; they want the attention. Be yourself and try and not be scared of opening your mouth or going outside and showing off who you are.
It'll get better I promise!
Here if needed! I know the feels. :3
I also have a PSA condition. I'm almost a hermit, and the only place I feel safe is my cave. However, when I find a community that is warm and embracing, I try to stay involved as much as I can. Thanks for advocating for us!