Anxiety problem.

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Well, I’m 13 and I suffer from social anxiety….. I was bullied so I went to cyber school. I feel even more alone now, I want a friend but I’m to scared to meet anyone, I can’t even leave my house because of my fear of people in general. I need help with making friends.

Category: asked May 17, 2014

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How do you feel about clubs? Or out of school classes of whatever you would like to do. I used to have the same problem. My mom forced me to go to guitar classes and we were only 3 people in class so I was confident enough to be there (although really scared at the beginning) It was a way of making me go outside but for a reason, not thinking about I am going to see and speak to people but I am going to learn something! and I made amazing friends there and with my same interests. It's a nice way to build up confidence at being around people and to learn some new amazing skills.
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This is just my crazy suggestion, but it really worked for me. If people make you nervous try your hand at dealing with animals. try horseback riding or volunteer at an animal shelter, that way you can focus on the critter while being around people. just a suggestion, being nervous around people is part of growing up so give it time and you'll get better at it ;)
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Hello there! I understand what you're going through, I'm going through it right now. It's understandable to be scared of meeting people now, have you thought of joining any websites and finding those who have the same interests? Online friends are just as nice as those outside.
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i understand your position and i am going through this as well.. anyway.. not everyone is bad and judge you.. so try starting off with small talks.. say hi and ask how they are.. and talk about similar interests.. it's easy to tell because you see them doing something or the other more often.. it's fine to choose people to talk to at first.. join a community or a club.. whichever pings your interests.. try motivating yourself as well.. don't let the past and your current position take you down.. you have already started off by sharing your problems here.. you willd o great :)
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hmm,that's tough. Bullies themselves are sometimes the victims in their own families or from other people they mostly redirect their anger towards others. its them they have conflict within themselves. as of your situation of feeling anxiety after years of getting bullied. Make some friends in the real world, dont depend on online, im not saying online peeps arent nice, they are! i have lots of them as well. But friends in real life is pretty good ! they are physically present and you'd be able to spend some time and have fun doing things together. just be yourself in front of that person, you will have a great time .you need someone who can listen and pat you on the back in times you need it. get out your room , smile often , positivity attracts people.
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Have you tried to volunteer somewhere? An animal shelter as others have suggested. It's a good reason to get out of the house, it'll keep you occupied. :)