Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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Ok so I’ll be straight up honest, I personally know I need counseling by a professional psychologist. The problem is that my parents keep telling me to go and it makes me upset because I’m the one who would be disclosing all my problems to that person and I keep telling them that I’ll go when I feel comfortable to go. I really don’t like being told I need to go to counseling because I already know, but when someone tells you to your face and basically says that you don’t know what you’re doing so go to counseling, of course I’m going to be upset. I understand they are my parents and yes, I’ve been procrastinating counseling, but it’s only because I’m not sure if I’m comfortable or not. However I don’t like the fact that they say, “we’re your parents so we can tell you what to do.” and “we all don’t want to be told what to do, but we have to do it anyway.” To me it’s like, “OK I realize I’m suppose to listen and do stuff I’m told to do, but certain things are too sensitive to me personally, to be shoved in my face and told to do it.” I’m not discrediting my parents in any way or form, I’m just saying I’m really upset that they won’t listen to me about not telling me to go and just letting me tell them when I feel comfortable.

Am I wrong to feel this way?

Category: Tags: asked January 20, 2014

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Not at all. You just need someone time to sort things out. Go to therapy when you feel you're ready to do it, and just tell your parents that you're glad they care so much, but you need some time and space to get used to the idea of sharing your problems with someone else. They'll understand :)
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So you feel like you don't have any control over the matter? What you could do is be the one that picks the doctor or schedules the appointment so you feel it is more of your choice and not just this thing your parents are forcing on you.
Most people would love to be in your particular dilemma because for many youths it's the opposite problem, the parents don't really want to admit that their kid needs help, and so they will say its a phase, or grow up, or start working harder, etc. As advanced as we are today there is still plenty of stigma around about going to see a psychiatrist or therapist. I say grab the opportunity and thank your parents! You may never feel comfortable going and that is okay, just don't let it stop you from seeking a solution.