I don’t know what it is and I wonder if my friend was right about what he said. I’ve always been told I am funny but I wonder if that is really me. I’ve been though a lot just like many people and it has changed me in many ways but can it change my humor. My friend knows me really well he knows everything about me but he said if I was really happy with myself I wouldn’t try so hard to be funny. I wouldn’t try so hard to make people like me. I’m not sure if this is true but there is someone I like and I do try to make him laugh I mean who doesn’t try to make the person they like smile. I just want to know should I be embarrass that when I do try to make that guy laugh I feel like I’m trying to hard. Is my self esteem that low that I want to know people like me. Because if I can be honest I don’t like a lot of people I try to close myself. Why would I get embarrass when I tell him things. When we hang he laughs and when we text he will responds to “lol” or “haha” but I feel maybe he does it to make me feel bad. What is wrong with me I look down on myself so much and I thought my best quality was my humor but when my friend talked about how I try to hard it makes me wonder what is really good about myself?
You seem to like to make people laugh, just do so, do what you want, do what makes you happy, if you feel like you try to hard, stop trying to hard, actually, humor and jokes are funniest when they come spontaniously.
As long as you're not basing your identity around being a funny person, you're good. Being funny is a good thing. It draws people together, and laughter relieves stress. The problem only comes if there's nothing else you like about yourself. I'd say- keep being funny, but also sit down and make a list of your other good qualities, and stick the list in a place that you can see it. I'm sure there's more to you than your sense of humor.