Am I too emotionally dependent?

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For a while now, I have been dealing with depression and anxiety. It has become extremely hard for me to cope with it at school, so I got my guidance counselor and school resource officer involved. Initially, they allowed me to leave class whenever I wanted to come talk to them and I liked it. But eventually I wasn’t just coming to their office to decompress, I was avoiding class to do so and my grades were dropping. I was in their office more than I was class and sometimes I wasn’t even overwhelmed. I just wanted to see them.

They had to change the plan two times before finally they had to put their foot down and tell me I could only see them on Mondays and Thursdays. The day they told me this, I sobbed hysterically for a while before I had to get sent home early.

The issue wasn’t that I was seeing them, it was how much I was seeing them and then eventually the reason I was seeing them was called into question too. They were enabling me to be out of class and hang out whenever I wanted, and if they didn’t, I felt like they didn’t care about me and it tended to end with me crying.

So what do you guys think, am I too emotionally dependent?

Category: asked November 23, 2014

2 Answers

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I don't want to be harsh, but I'm guessing you kinda are. I'm guessing you should talk about it with friends, or parents, but hey, who the hell does that? Either that, or the idea of special attention that you only have made you feel special, this taken away caused you to break down. But hey, that's just me.
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From the way you objectively worded things, it does sound like you have some dependency issues.Those resources were made available to you as a source of relief, and you abused them.

It is entirely possible to make friends with your guidance counselors but remember that they are still school faculty and have your education in mind. They did not enjoy restricting that privilege. Part of learning to handle dependency issues is learning how to be self-reliant and how to restructure your thoughts in a healthy way. For example: you knew you were abusing a privilege, but when it was addressed, instead of taking accountability, you instead insinuated that they did not care about you. Whereas you could have taken that moment to responsibly own up to your actions.

If you want to discuss this further, my inbox is always open.