So, the past couple of months, my mum has brought up in varying forms that I am a bad daughter and do nothing for the family, ex: make dinner, take the dog out… the truth is I am extremely stressed about school and various other things to the extent that I get chronic nausea and suffer from insomnia. Also and at times extremely depressed. I try to talk to her about it but she dismisses it as an excuse that I do have to do my homework in order to get A’s. This problem has been growing bigger and bigger just recently since my siblings have left home and I am the only one left with my parents now, and all their attention that was spread out between 4 children is now concentrated onto me. I can’t help but feel inadequate, when I am told that I am resented for not ‘helping out’ and the truth is that compared to my friends who get waited on hand and foot by their parents, I do a ton more. Even though I do have the ability to feel extremely happy, she makes me feel as though I am not good enough in any way shape or form, and most of the time I believe her. I don’t know how to communicate the way I feel anymore out of fear that I am going to be reprimanded for speaking my mind. This feeling of the need for constant approval is weighing me down and I just feel sad. What should I do?
