Am I just dumb?

Dean, on what you just told me I'd like for you to elaborate a bit more, write it on a piece of paper and read it to your parents. They are the source of your problem, not you. Kids grow up to mirror the way they were brought up. Kids are like sponges. Throw one in clear water and it'll be ready for work. Throw one in muddy water and it will never be quite as clean as it once was. Luckily you are still young, and mistakes can be corrected. Just communicate with your parents, ask for another adult or a teacher at school you trust to help you talk to them if you can, that is always better than going at it alone. Good luck and feel free to get in touch anytime.

Noone is dumb. Just not educated enough. May I ask, how is your family environment?

My family life is a bit odd.My parents are always telling me I'll fail school and never amount to anything which doesn't do anything to improve my school grades.They are really controlling and constantly give me a false sense of security before attempting to use me for something.They don't ever listen to what I have to say because they say I'm just a kid.They've taken away almost all my hobbies because they think it will help,but really it just gives me less reasons to be excited about my life.

I can't find anything as good as these others to say. Just know that you are never dumb. No one is dumb and everyone is important in their own way. Don't let theses other people get you down. They are very very wrong

I can't find anything as good as these others to say. Just know that you are never dumb. No one is dumb and everyone is important in their own way. Don't let theses other people get you down. They are very very wrong

I want you to know that there is a HUGE difference between educated and intelligent. Educated means that you respond well to the school system and have the ability to manage schoolwork and the like. That's all good.Intelligence doesn't need and education behind it. It helps, yes, but intelligence can stand on its own. Just the fact that you are asking these questions, that you recognize there is nothing you can do to change the past though you regret it, that you have the ability to think about these things in depth shows me, just from this tiny post, that you have intelligence. And if I ever had a choice between being educated and being intelligent, I would pick intelligent every single time. So, NO. You are not dumb. There is proof, just in the fact that you can tell that it was because you were unmotivated - not because you couldn't understand what you were being taught if you put in the effort, that you are intelligent.

When people call eachother names like idiot or dumb it's because they're upset and taking it out on others. don't take it personally! You're right, you can't change the past about being held up a class before but you can surely make a change right now and make sure that never happens and you get better results. You already made the first step by asking this question. See what's holding you back now and work on that. See what you can do about it NOW. Maybe you need a better schedule to manage your time? Maybe you need motivation? Find out what inspires you, think about your passions and dreams and how school can help you make them happen in the future. I see from the way you write that you're a bright kid and have lots of potential. Don't let sadness or fear of failure keep you from giving your best. Get your parents off your back by showing them that you're doing something about it and they will be less controlling and become more supportive. Good luck Dean!

Ignore them. You're not dumb. You said yourself that just weren't motivated at the time. So you have done things at your own pace. That's great! At least you know where you stand now. Unlike other people, you haven't rushed towards a goal of finishing school and now have a year of learning to prioritize.

No, of course you're not dumb! Ignore their insults, they don't know all of your past. You were younger back then, and everyone makes mistakes while they are younger. Don't regret your past, be proud of it! It makes you who you are. Plus, you weren't held back because you failed or anything like that. You were held back because you were just unmotivated, so please don't think of yourself as dumb! Hope I helped! :)

Well it's no wonder you were sad and unmotivated with your parents discouraging you like that! Goodness! I am very sorry you are subjected to that kind of treatment. That is really wrong. You are not stupid. Everyone has the potential to be brilliant. It's all a matter of learning how to think for yourself. Don't let what your parents have told you get under your skin (as hard as that might be). They are just plain wrong. They do not know what your potential is nor what you are capable of. You have an important purpose and gifts just like everyone else.

There's a difference between being unintelligent and unmotivated to learn. It sounds like you are the latter, lovey. What you should do is reach out for extra help. Get tips from people who are better suited to help you, like teachers, because they're the best qualified to assist. Get tutoring, and find out why you feel so bad and find healthy means of coping so that distress is lifted. You are not dumb. Not in the least. You're just struggling, and that's okay. No one is perfect. As for your parents…well…they need to better understand, and there's no better way to help them see both sides than to introduce a mediator. Suggest counseling with your school's representative or a teacher. They'll eventually come around. They're just stressed that you aren't succeeding, and handling it in a very poor manner. Good luck, xoxo

If you grade a monkey on how high it can jump, and a rabbit on how high it can climb, they will both be "useless" forever.

You're not dumb. Don't live in the past! You're definitely unmotivated. See your experience as a lesson and try to learn from it. Motivate yourself in whatever way fits you (healthy motivation, not like drugs please)

You seem to be incredibly intelligent just to be able to ask this question but if you want extra help there is a website that pretty much passed fifth through seventh grade for me, http://www.tutor.com/ . As for the people who pick on you; just think of them as sandpaper and by the time they finally give up on teasing you, they are trashed but you are looking brand new.