Am I heartless?

It’s part of my personality and nature that I don’t express affection very well. That doesn’t mean I don’t have emotions, in fact I’m very emotional but in emotional situations I just feel so clueless.
I really do love my parents and they already know that, they did say I don’t need to always tell them or anything because they know from my actions. But their birthdays may pass, or Mother’s or Father’s Day which I usually forget about. But if I don’t do anything about it it’s because I find it so awkward to express affection…because it just feels so hard? It’s hard for me to say endearing words and I wonder if it’s just stemming from this or I am hypocritical as I felt I was.

asked July 15, 2015

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cynicalgravy

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I don't think lacking the ability to express affection makes you heartless in any way. I think it might be helpful to set reminders about birthdays and other celebratory events and to try and make that effort being thoughtful even when you find it difficult to find the words.
Your actions are more important than any words you could ever come up with anyway.

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itsaboutthelittlethings

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nope not just you, I feel the same way too and still sometimes to this day. I started saying "i love you" to my parents because i forced myself into it, sooner or later i realized that I meant it

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XXIV

I'm gonna go ahead and re-emphasize that actions are most definitely more important than words. You don't have to even say a word, simply leaving a gift with a note saying "Happy -insert here- Day" means the world to people. They'll know how you feel regardless of how you express yourself. I encourage you to try and work on it as, trust me, people really like words, but start with actions. You'll find the words will flow easier if you focus on the action.

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GuitarPlayerTK

you are not alone on feeling that way. me too, I sometimes forget the mother and father's day but who cares, you can your parents feel that it is a mother/father everyday . they are your parents, they love you. you can just give random gifts, i know you can make up. you know your parents better than anyone, you know what would make them happy. if you feel guilty about forgetting special occasion, make it up to the. i know you know how to *wink*good luck :))

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