So this guy i used to like messaged me telling me i look different….that my shoulders are wider….idk if i should but im taking this as if he is calling me fat and just as i thought no one could ruin my day i literally cried when i read that message. it hurt my feelings considering that i struggle with my eating disorder….should i be as hurt as i am?
If he knows about your disorder, then maybe it was his way of saying that you look like you're getting better. I don't think he meant it in a bad way. He might just be struggling to find a subtle way of saying he thinks you look really nice. You know how some guys think they're playing it cool and the come off sounding like a jerk.If it's really bothering you, then talk to him about it! I'm sure he'll correct you :)Hope this helped!
You should definitely not be hurt! Embrace who you are, I'm sure others embrace who you are too and that's what's most important. Don't let what others say bring you down, you're beautiful and special in your own unique way. As everyone is.
Uhm, maybe it's just because you are growing up, it can be a very neutral comment, and the girls that have a wide back/shoulders are gymnasts or people into sports that require training your body, I think you shouldn't take it as anything related to fat, but you could tell him to please not comment your body.
That guy was a huge jerk, and the only reason he sent that message was to be a bully. Bullies just look for ways to hurt people even if they know the comments they make aren’t true. Don’t give him the satisfaction of hurting you. You are beautiful and perfect just the way you are. And just because an idiot says something doesn’t mean it’s true. No, you are not fat just because he says you are. Also, he didn't even say you were fat, he said your shoulders were wider. Again, doesn't mean it's true. You’re amazing, and don’t you ever forever that <3
Wow, I dunno what that means I would ask and if he was rude I might respond in kind.. Seems uncalled for. Or take the highroad and act like nothing happened. If your confident nothing he says should bother you. I work out.. I may be 10lbs overweight but even if someone called me fat it wouldn't hurt my feelings because I am addressing that issue to the best of my ability. And you should talk to someone about your eating disorder.. There are a lot of helpful people.. On here! Just ask we would all be glad to help you work through that! :)
I don't like the word fat. I don't believe in the use of it because I don't think people should compare themselves to others. You are you, don't try to change that. There is someone out there that will love you for you. I promise.
If you want to call yourself "fat", then so be it. But everybody has a different opinion on what "fat" is. Personally I think that there are no fat people and skinny people, I think there is people and skinny people.