I have this weird thing where people who are single catch my interest more than other people do. I prefer talking to single people, and if I ever even hear a person is single, I’m always 100% curious to who they are and everything about them.
Now I’m in a relationship and I am very faithful, so why am I always looking? Any tips on how to stop?
Well for one, you're asking for tips on how to stop. Being interested in single people in a strictly platonic manner isn't necessarily a bad thing or some sort of behavior that needs to stop. Specifically if you're talking about being interested in hanging out with single people that are a gender you're not attracted to, (if applicable). Now, when it comes to (excuse me, but for the sake of simplicity I'm just going to give examples from a heterosexual standpoint) hanging out with girls that you were friends with before you were in a relationship, and there was never any romantic connections, you need to talk to your significant other and let them know of your previous relationship with them and that it is non threatening. Open communication and honesty are the keys to a successful relationship.When it comes to meeting new girls that aren't single, it becomes a little trickier. In theory, if what you're doing is strictly friends and you can say to yourself with complete honesty that nothing more is happening, everything should be fine. However it doesn't always work out that way. Many women will question why you want to go hang out with a single girl in a one on one situation who you had no previous relationship before. Again, it's a tricky situation to navigate, but open communication is the key.It's not a behavior that needs to stop, it just needs to be talked about and boundaries of what's acceptable and what's not need to be laid out and agreed upon by both you and your significant other and those boundaries need to be adhered to by both of you. Hope this helps!
I feel like I'm in your same boat. Take a deep breath and realize why you are in the relationship. If you continuously question yourself, talk to your partner. You probably might be too young to be this committed.
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