Always in a love triangle?

This is more of a “I needa know how to stop this” kind of question.

I love the idea of love. Obviously relationships are my life. Ever since I was 14 (I’m 17 now) I have been all over relationships. I am either always helping or helping myself. I can never stay single, but that’s not my problem.

My problem is, I can see myself with many people. I’ll be with someone but never feel satisfied with that. I’ll be madly in love but wondering what it would be like to date someone else. And normally I know who that someone else is.

A better example: I have been dating this guy for about 3 months now. Due to complications he lives with me, but that’s a looong story. Now I have been in love with this guy for about 3 years now but he could never do long distance and he moved states away. I dated him before he moved and all, so that feeling was already there. Well, he moved back and now him and I are together. I love him to death and I can defiantly see my future with him. But I’ll sit here and look at this girl I used to have a crush on (she was always taken when I was single) and wondering what it would be like to date her…but I really don’t want to just leave my boyfriend for her…but I would really like to be with her.

How do I shake off this feeling of wanting to be with someone else?

Category: Dating & Relationships asked January 8, 2015

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◆☆Oliver☆◆

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i actually have this exact same problem but just with two other people of course. i am also 17 so i can also relate there. ive been with my man for about 2 years now but im also someone who cant just be with one person. i love loving and being with people because i care about them. anyway, for the longest time i was also dealing with feelings that i have for a guy friend of mine, i kinda staring loving him in the "love, love" way. i loved him beofre of course but like a bff, but he told me how he feels etc. so i started hanging out with him more and stuff. i love my bf to ever actualy act on being with the other, so i had to choose one. i hate it and im still hurting with it but i had to choose.

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QueenHetalia5011

I would look into polyamoury, which is when you might have multiple relationships with people, or group relationships. While this might seem quite out-of-the-box and many individuals would argue that it is abnormal and unnatural, I would disagree. While I'm in a monogamous relationship myself, I know plenty of people who are very fulfilled and happy in polyamourous relationships.

Monogamy does not suit everyone, but the basic principles of trust, honesty and communication for a monogramous relationship are also transferred into a polyamourous one. Polyamoury is also becoming recgonised as a sexual identity, and monogamy is also becoming recgonised as an identity as well. This doesn't mean that individuals can go out and cheat on their partners and claim "well I'm polyamourous!" Rather, partners are aware of other partners, and communication is key about who you'd like to date. When you are in a polyamourous relationship, you consider the feelings of all of those involved and consent is a huge factor.

You might find this really rewarding. While you are a minor and would have to wait until you're 18, it's worth to start thinking about this if you're finding that you are struggling with the conventional monogamous trend.

https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamory.html

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Syropae

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