Alone… :(

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I feel myself alone in a crowd of people. I am fed up with most of the things in life. With other people. its that if i don’t make an effort to be in contact with the other person then there won’t be a conncetion between us. i know that i have to make an effort by myself but i expect the other person to also make an effort. i don’t call them or message them, it will be as though i don’t even exist.
i therefore choose to be with myself and that is fine with me but sometimes i feel myself like too alone. i don’t know what i am supposed to do. i feel like i dont even exist for other people. i don’t really care about that either but sometimes it really pains that there is not a single person who cares. no one close enough who would care. what am i supposed to do?

Category: Tags: asked September 14, 2014

5 Answers

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accepted
We are all made to feel that we are not connected because we have expectations of life, selfish, and use past memories to deal with the present( the what is). Understand why you depend on people to be fulfilled. Understand, why I'm conditioned to think in a certain pattern? What kind of relationship comes out of where one uses the other for psychological security? Can I do my part and care? If I want my own self fulfillment my own security from moment to moment how can I really interact with another?
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its mostly because when something happens in your life that you want to share it with someone, and at that moment when you turn around, you see that there is no one and you are all alone. its that moment that drives me crazy, its that moment that makes me feel the lonelyness creep inside of me and i want myself so desperately to be listened to. i don't know how to calm myself. I mostly, in those situations smoke weed and try to be in a world were I don't need anybody. But even this dosen't always help the situation. I just don't know how to deal with it
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I feel like you do, exactly. It's terrible, but if people are making you feel alone, you need surrounded with better people. If you would like to talk, feel free to message me whenever. There's always someone out there that understands. If people don't put in effort with you like you do for them, it's not worth it. "Don't cross oceans for people who would jump over a puddle for you" Everyone feels a little alone sometimes and its okay, stay strong and keep looking forward because it won't last forever
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If you are not getting equal effort from people for them to be a good friend from you, don't try to make them a good friend. Some might get closer to you down the road, because who knows, maybe they're just scared to approach you, but if they're just disinterested, let them be more of a friend/acquaintance than a friend friend. As far as finding people to connect with, try to go out and do things and find groups of people doing those same things. In middle school I had to cut ties with some friends who were ignoring me all the time when they were much more interested in others. Since then I've had trouble feeling connected to people but I've done things like try theater and play new games where I find that people who never gave me a second glance in other classes or when walking past me were suddenly talking with me all the time. Sometimes people just need encouragement from the environment or the activity. I've also found that being honest about things that make me socially anxious or frustrated and just talking about them makes other people more likely to share their own anxieties about it which makes it possible for us to understand each other more.
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I know exactly how you feel, trust me. Ive been in your shoes before and still to this day am in them at times. You're never alone, you got plenty of people here who are looking out for you. Hit me up with a pm if you ever vent, I got you. Im here for you