Almost 16 and never been kissed

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Anyone can relate? I’ve never been in a relationship, ever. Not even like one of those lame middle school relationships. I actually really feel like I don’t seem that approachable to guys, it’s not that they don’t like me because I’ve heard that a couple guys have liked me through my friends, but they just never seem to make a move.

Category: Tags: asked January 18, 2014

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Hey, first of all, you're not the only person with this "problem". There's a lot of people who doesn't date until college. Don't worry about doing something just because everyone else does, you're still quite young and you will experience a lot lot of relationships. Everybody has their own pace in which they do things. There's no right or wrong . You shouldn't feel pressure into doing something, just because "everyone else" has done it, or feel bad because you haven't. Don't do it because you feel like you have to, but because you want to. And when the time is right, it'll be great.
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Can I tell you, I'm gonna be 20 this year, and only just had my first kiss a few months ago. There's really no "norm" for this sort of thing. We all move at our own paces, and we're all living different lives. There's nothing wrong with that. By the way, there's no rule that says you can't make any moves yourself. (: No worries. It'll happen when it happens. ^^
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I had my first kiss about a month ago, just weeks before I turned 16. It doesn't matter when you do things. I know plenty of super attractive, awesome girls who are in their 20's who haven't even had a date before. Just let it happen.
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Guess I didn't mention that I'm not at the same school as those guys or my old friends anymore. I've been at a new school since the end of August.
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Honey, I am in your exact position, but I recently realized that the right guy for me is out there somewhere. I may not have met him yet, but I will when the time is right. I was quite depressed for some time, because most of the girls in my class where "the popular" girls, so the boys where practically drooling over them 24/7. Not so fun getting it smashed it in your face. It really is no big deal if you haven't been kissed or been in a relationship. We are so so so young still, we have our whole lives in front of us! Everything happens when they're supposed to :) What have helped me a lot, was just knowing that other people have experienced the same as me. So I truly hope this helps you. Good luck to you xx
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Hey there, I'm 20 and I've never been kissed properly either... But you know waht, I do not worry about it at all. I'm not much of a relationship person, and I don't feel ready for it yet and that's ok, because when the right time comes for it to happen, it just will.. So relax just go with the flow and if you see someone you actually like, go for it and maybe make the first move? Just take it easy and the rest will just fall into place.Best of luck to you <3
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Amy, don't worry! I had my first kiss wasted on a girl I didn't even like because I didn't know any better at the time, but my best friend didn't have her first kiss till she was 17 with a boy she really loved. We all are different. Just because everyone else might seem like they are ahead doesn't mean they are really ahead. There is NO such thing as ahead. You don't have to rush yourself, work at your own pace, and work with whatever comes. You won't be able to fully live if you are looking around and comparing yourself to others. Everything comes, opportunities come. You just need to keep doing your thing and focus on what you got right NOW. And a first kiss isn't all that to be honest ;) you'll be fine !
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I'm going to be 19 this year and I can totally relate. If you don't like anyone in particular, it's fine, don't worry about it! ;) But if you're interested in someone, make a move. I know it's easier said, though. :( But remember that being with a guy just for the sake of it is never as special as being with someone you truly like. <3 Maybe you just need to fall in love! ^^
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You don't want to rush anything. It's not really any kind of speed contest and TRUST me on this. You'll regret wrong choices due to rushing. In my case I had my first kiss at the age of 16 but knowing what would happen later I'd rather beat her down. (Metaphorically speaking - Never harm a girl) And you don't want to live through that. Altough everyone probably will.
-Immortal
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Dont try to date someone just to get a first kiss or something, just make sure you feel strongly about someone and try to find someone you fall in love with, and not just like
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I can definitely relate to this. I haven't had a proper kiss either and I'll be 18 soon. I've never been asked on a proper date, no boy has ever liked me. Now, my friends say they don't get it because they think I'm pretty (I however do not) but when I almost had a relationship with a guy, things fizzled because I was too fat for him. Trust me, you're not alone!
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I'm 16 and I've never had a "real" kiss. My first kiss was playing spin the bottle with my friends just a couple of months ago. my most recent kiss was with my guy friend on new years eve but we were both drunk so it doesn't count. still waiting for that special someone as well :(
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Same problem here! There have been a ton of guys who have had a crush on me, but they would always just ask my friends if I like them or not. Of course, my friends are mean and say no, so the guys always stop talking to me. I would just wait it out and you'll find that brave person one day:)
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17 year old guy and I still haven't either, so don't worry :D
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Do not waste your first kiss, I did and I will regret it forever. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I have only kissed once and am 15.