Advice for fear of failure?

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So I’m flying up to Boston from Louisiana for college in a week and I’m really scared. I have really bad anxiety and I’ve never done anything for more than a year without quitting. I want to do well in college but I’m afraid of so many things. What if I fail my classes? What if I lose my scholarship? What if I’m in the wrong major? I’m majoring in journalism but what if I’m a bad journalist? I’m too polite and nervous but I want to report on important things like wars and politics. But I’m just so scared of everything. I just want to make a difference with journalism but I don’t want to fail or disappoint people. Honestly, sometimes I just wonder, what’s the point? If I’m no good at anything, even the things I like to do, then what is the point of doing anything?

Category: Tags: asked August 18, 2013

3 Answers

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Congrats on college! I'd just like to say that fear is incredibly important in life, the fear of many things often is the only thing driving us to succeed and give us the best chance possible; the fear of starving, our fear of starving keeps us eating, it keep us healthy, our fear of death keeps us from heroics which we cannot accomplish, keeping us alive, our fear of being loneliness forces us to seek friendship and companionship which generally betters our life. It's no different from the fear of failure, it more then often drives us to succeed in our endeavors, if only people would realise that. Most people have their doubts, moments of weakness when they would very much like to fail by their own hand, usually by quitting. It's better to try and fail, learning your limits, making mistakes in life and bettering yourself so your next endeavor has more chance of success! Journalists with 40 years of experience stilll make rookie mistakes and blunders, give yourself the best chance you deserve and believe in yourself c:
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I feel like I am in a good, upbeat mood now so I am gonna help you out with what I learned so far. First of all you sound like a really nice girl and I love nice girls, so that is a plus in my book. Secondly you describe anxiety and trust me, a lot of people feel that way their first day in college, you are not alone by any means. What you have to do is to turn that fear into motivation. You say that you want to make a difference with journalism and that is a very noble cause! Before you read further, clap yourself on your back or high five a stranger and be fucking proud of that! I am not sure if this site supports vulgar language. That is your strength and you should utilize that. Do you want to become the likes of reporters like Avaaz that actively change the world into a better place and gives hope to millions of people? I bet you do. Friction between people will always exist and you just have to get used to it, put yourself in awkward situations, you will have plenty of funny stories to tell later on! The only way you can disappoint someone is if you let yourself feel that way. Either way you sound too sweet to make anyone pissed off, so I doubt that will happen. If you want to talk you can always send me a message, bby gurl. Joke's aside, do that if you need to. LATERZ.
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You don't fail if you try you fail if you don't try. By attempting something you have still accomplished something. Join clubs like book clubs sport, art or whatever your good at and don't say you're not good at anything because then how did you get into college? If you truly believe you aren't good at anything then you should join some classes, start as a beginner and with time and practice you'll find your place and remember you learn from your mistakes :)