Advice about him?


I am asking a question of if I should be with this guy or am I wasting my time?

I meet this guy my first year of college. I automatically fell for him. We were together for about an year and a half. Though out that time, there had been a lot of drama.

During a month break up, I got back together with one of my exes. I got pregnant. I did not know I was pregnant; until I had my miscarriage. We broke up. He moved to Washington D.C, to transfer schools.

We broke up and he left in December. Despite the fact that I wrongly accused him of lying to me (he is sterile) and getting me pregnant, he was determined to get in contact with me. He spent months emailing me, and then through the grape vine got my number. This was in august.

At the time I was in a new relationship and i did not want to split up my new boyfriend. At the end of our conversation, he told me: how much he love me , missed me, was searching for me and hypothetically asked me to marry him.

Shortly after our talk, I broke up with my boyfriend and decide that I wanted to meet my ex. We scheduled a time, but he never came down to see me. I was crushed.

A year later, in a new relationship, I am about to move to the other side of the country. I decided to contact him. I tell him about my move and my unwavering feelings. He wanted to me up with me again. I could not let him this time.

We have always had communication problems. I would consistently try to contact him, and i would end up feeling ignored. He is the type of person that if he does not have anything to say , he won’t talk.

I tried and tried to contact him. I plan on moving back to the state that we are both from sometime in the next 6 months. I trying to asking where he would like us to be at in the future.

Should I continue to seek him out or let him fall off the face of the earth.

By the way, i truly believe he is the love of my life.

Category: Tags: asked January 1, 2014

5 Answers

You should sever ties with this man once and for all. Making him completely nonexistent.
My advice is to continue to talk to him if you honestly feel that way. However, crushing your current relationships to do so is not fair to the people you're dating. Either be happy with the people you are with, or break up with them for good until you can be with this person. You have to look at it from their view. Would you want to just be a placeholder to the person your partner really wants to be with? My advice is choose, but don't drag people with you. It sucks, but the truth is is that it is selfish. Not trying to offend you, but it's the truth,
he doesn't seem like he is worth your time. he is/was toying with your heart and emotions. you shouldnt let people do that to you. and you having boyfriends then ending them to see this guy isnt fair to them. i agree with the above answer. but it's your choice and i know its hard but i think you should listen to your heart and find a guy that will treat you like a princess. good luck :)
Hello Tani, you did the right thing in reaching out.

Love is a powerful emotion, your feelings are understandable, but love is not a Disney romance. Love doesn't conquer all. It seems like your silent ex just isn't as interested in you as he claimed, and his silence is very suspicious. You're falling hard and are practically running to him. Instead of chasing this young man, try stepping back and taking time for yourself, out of relationships. You are not thinking clearly.

Please keep in contact and let us know how things are progressing. Remember that you matter, and you are not alone.
You are all right!I do think that i need to take time for myself and in essence that is my plan. I love that guy with all my heart and i more than likely will always have a place for him.It was unfair to start relationships that i was not will to let go of my past or completely commit to.Our relationship has never been conventional and that is why i think i am holding out. I need to get my $h!t together, and focus on me.Thanks everyone.