My mother…STEP mother has always been very controlling. My mom died when I was younger and my dad remarried. Yesterday she hit me because I wasn’t done with my homework. She’s done more than just hit me, she’s thrown glass plates at me, smacked me with a hose, etc. Last night she told me I was the meanest person she’s ever met because of something I did 5 years ago. She makes me feel totally worthless and she makes my brothers feel the same way. I’m constantly crying myself to sleep because I don’t feel safe in my own home. My father hears what’s going on but he always supports my mom so he doesn’t get in trouble by her. Everytime she looks at me all I see is disappointment, and hatred. Like I’m a liability. Last night I was so tempted to just pack my things and leave. She always calls me selfish but I do so much to help her and our family out. I’ll do chores around the house without being asked, I’ll make dinner, etc. But she never notices the good things I do, she just relies on the bad. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t take it anymore. I feel so useless and I have literally considered commiting suicide because she terrifies me. I’ve tried telling her how I feel but she just screams at me more and grounds me or gives me extra work and tells me I’m a child and don’t understand anything, or that I’m ignorant and stupid. I don’t know how much more I can take before I implode from not telling her what she needs to hear. She always expects the worst from me. I don’t know if this is considered abuse? Is this okay? Also if anyone has any tips about what I could do to make it stop? That’d be great…thank you.

asked September 15, 2014

2 Answers

This is most DEFINITELY abuse, and is not allowed. She should not be making you feel this way. I can tell that you are a caring person who is trying their best, and she should acknowledge that. I know it's a very hard thing to do, but you HAVE to contact your local child protection services. If you don't know how to do this, or don't want to tell them directly, you can make time to meet with a teacher or other trusted guardian and let them know. Teachers are required to tell the authorities by law, and having someone else tell the CPS for you can be a bit easier. You don't deserve this treatment from her. I wish you good luck, stay strong <3
This is NOT okay and is illegal parenting. I'd recommend calling your local child care service, or if severe beatings are occurring, the police.