Top things to know:
Setting the mood for sex is important – make sure everyone is comfortable!
Having sex is not just about having babies, it should also be fun for everyone involved
STIs are common and nothing to be ashamed about. If caught early, they may be treatable
We wouldn’t be on this planet if it wasn’t for sex. Although sex is a part of the human lifecycle, many people still find it taboo to discuss. In many places, it’s common for people to start learning about sex during puberty.
Curious about sex, but not sure where to start? Here’s the very basics of what you should know before thinking about having sex for the first time.
Often, the sex ed you learn in school is not as accurate as it could be, nor as applicable. It can take a long time to figure out what works for you and what your preferences are.
Sex drive: what is it and where does it come from?
Our sex drive and sexual pleasure are impacted by our physiology, psychology, societal expectations, and the interactions between these domains. In addition, we still don’t have a great understanding of female sexual anatomy or female orgasm.
Birth control can sometimes affect your sex drive, so if you are currently taking hormonal contraception, tracking your symptoms in Clue can help you determine its effects on your body and libido.
Non-Hormonal Birth Control
Is Clue Birth Control the right contraception for me?
First things first, Clue Birth Control isn’t a pill or an implant….
by Sarah Toler, DNP, CNM
Tracking your sex drive and sexual activity in Clue can give you an indication of what’s normal for you at certain points during your cycle. Make sure to download Clue and start tracking today.
When people think of sex, they often think of orgasm as the ultimate way to achieve pleasure. Female orgasm, in particular, is often seen to be proof of sexual success. There is still not enough adequate research or information about female orgasm, although we generally know how to define the different ways people tend to achieve orgasm.
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Even if you don’t end up having an orgasm, there are other ways to experience pleasure. Erogenous zones are areas of the body that elicit a sexual response when stimulated. This can include the genital area, nipples, or anywhere, really—whatever you’re into.
The clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones due to its high concentration of nerve endings (1,2). By stimulating an erogenous zone, a sexual physiological response can be set into motion.
The clitoris is part of the vulva, the name for the external parts of female genitalia. The vagina is the tube connecting the vulva and the cervix.
What feels good to you might not feel good to someone else. Experimenting with masturbation to figure out what you like and dislike might be a good idea.
How to have safer sex
Safer sex is a way to reduce your risks of STIs.
Here’s the top 3 ways to avoid STIs:
Correct, consistent (always, not just some of the time) use of barriers (condoms and other barriers, like dental dams) on body parts or toys for any kind of vaginal, anal, or oral sex
Being mutually sexually exclusive: both you and your partner only have sex with each other
Regular testing for all STIs, by you and your partner(s)
Barrier methods include:
External condoms (sometimes called “male” condoms)
Internal condoms (sometimes called “female” condoms)
Latex or nitrile gloves
Practicing “safer sex” through the use of barrier methods (like condoms, gloves, and dental dams) can significantly lower this risk (3).
Internal and external condoms work by providing a physical barrier that prevents each partner’s genitals and body fluids from coming into contact with the other partner’s body (4).
It’s especially important to use a barrier method to protect yourself and your partner against STIs if either of you is unsure of your STI status, or if one or both partners are also having sex with someone else.