I guess you can distance yourself a bit from the person you don’t want to be a spare for, and start to think about what’s good for you and your life and seek other people, people you don’t expect to be a primary for, or who are willing for you to be their primary.

You don’t deserve to be treated like a spare @yazoo77, you will find someone who will put you first and who will give you unconditional support, be positive and keep smiling, that special someone is out there, you can do this, I’m always here if you need to talk, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone (hugs)