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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 2 years, 6 months ago

    My boyfriend works at a small grocery store. It’s one of those ”small town” type of stores where everytime we go on there he’s greeted by pretty much everyone there.

    I’ve been in the store quite a few times, and my boyfriend has mentioned me and the fact that we have 2 kids together. So people KNOW of me.

    Well…everytime we go in there workers, especially cashiers, will ask HIM questions about how the newborn is we just had a month ago and they NEVER make eye contact with me. It’s almost as if…they act like I don’t exist.

    Normally I wouldn’t be bothered, except some of his co-workers he has history with. Like…hanging out with and almost having sex with kind of history.

    And it’s just…made me rethink this relationship. Because I don’t like how we keep running into ”exes” and people he tried to get with and they talk to him like they chat all the time despite my boyfriend saying he hasn’t spoken to them. And I’m just…bothered. it’s been making me angry and depressed for the past few days because I don’t like his ex flings asking about our son and looking right through me when I’m right there.

    I feel dumb for being bothered. But this is really messing with me. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about it too, and that conversation went nowhere. I’m just so lost.

    Mood : Anxious
    • I’m so sorry hun, that is tough. you have every right to feel the way you do. Hopefully by distracting yourself with music, hobbies & relaxation it can fade and you can feel comfortable. If it keeps bothering you though, confide in someone like a friend, relative or your boyfriend, they really should be considerate and acknowledge your valid feelings.

    • That’s not right at all @xxbaybayxx, they really should acknowledge you when you are together with your boyfriend, you are part of this relationship and you deserve to be treated with respect, I would talk to your boyfriend openly and honestly about everything, also let him know how uncomfortable you are when bumping into ex’s, your boyfriend really should focus on you and not previous relationships, let him know how you feel Oliver, hope everything works out, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)