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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 8 months, 3 weeks ago

    It’s finally time.
    Time to break the distance between my boyfriend and I. He finally got a 2 bedroom place for my daughter and I to move into with him. I just sent him money for the deposit and got everything taken care of to get ready to go. I should be moving in about a month.

    Now here’s where it’s stressful. My mother. She’s both supportive and unsupportive. She’ll give me confidence, saying she’ll help me transfer my daughter’s hospital records over etc etc but then she’ll have these moments where she degrades my ability to do anything. She’ll randomly say, ”You won’t raise your daughter right.” Or doubt my boyfriend’s ability to be a father towards her. At times I guess she’s just being protective. But other times it’s just too much. She’s been making the news of me being able to move out of state more difficult than it is exciting. Everyday it’s something new. Or she’s telling me what my family is trying to do to prevent me from moving. (And I won’t even get into that trainwreck. My family is trying to get custody of my child taken away and such).

    It’s all too much sometimes. I’ve been making myself sick with stress. I’ve been barely eating. Sleep? Well it’s 12 am and I gotta be up early in the morning so there’s that. Overall….I wish one day could go smoothly. I haven’t smiled once since my boyfriend told me he got a place. I just want to be happy about this dammit.

    • Your family should be supportive of your move @xxbaybayxx, they should be happy for you Oliver, happy that you are leading a successful and independent live while being an amazing father and parent with your boyfriend, I would talk to your mother about how much her words hurt you, she has no right to say that you are not raising your daughter right, that’s so wrong of her, it’s nice that she is trying to be protective but she shouldn’t be critical of you especially when it comes to your daughter, please know you are being a wonderful father Oliver, please take care of yourself Oliver, do eat well and focus on the bright future that lies ahead for you, your boyfriend and your daughter, everything will be OK Oliver, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)