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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 months, 1 week ago

    I’m not sure what to do in this situation. I love my boyfriend, I love him more than anything….but I notice his friends are always so negative towards him. They mock him, constantly call him a woman, make demeaning memes using photos he’s posted of himself. And it’s honestly taking a toll on me mentally. Especially when their joking turns into them joking that I don’t exist, that his real lover is his right hand etc….and just… I’ve tried communicating with him about it but he says he’s fine with it and that it doesn’t bother him….but I can’t handle it anymore. Everytime he posts pictures of us, or events we went to or memories we made they always joke about it and make fun of it. I have to cope with this somehow because he refuses to do anything about it. :/ What should I do?

    • You and your boyfriend deserve so much better @xxbaybayxx, your boyfriend’s friends should be so ashamed of themselves, they have absolutely no right to treat your boyfriend like that, I would tell your boyfriend to dump them and find friends who will treat him with kindness, love and compassion, hope everything works out for both of you Oliver, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • @activity it can be two things:

      1) guys have a different notion of friendship and boundaries than women. Some guys see name calling and making fun of stuff, as a way to make their friendship strong. Might not make sense to you, but it does to them? – If it’s the case though, doesn’t mean you have to be confortable with it. You can tell his friends you aren’t ok with it, however they can say whateaver they want to him.

      2) It can be your boyfriend has a bit of low self esteem and is scared to leave them, because he’s scared to not have new friends.

      I don’t know which situation is though. I hope you find out!