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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 5 months ago

    I’ve always been the “bigger city” type of guy. Not so much in living aspect, but more of just…enjoyment of having so much to do. I told myself that I would never live anywhere smaller than where I grew up. So to be honest, when my boyfriend wanted me to live with him I was scared to. Going from a town with a population of 22k to a town with…[Read more]

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    • It’s great to see you happy in your new surroundings @xxbaybayxx, do enjoy your new town with your family Oliver, stay positive and keep smiling, you can do it, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 5 months ago

    Can I just do a recap of this year real quick?

    This has, by far, been one of the most stressful years I have faced. It started off pretty alright for the most part, I visited New York again to spend time with my boyfriend and to relax away from my normal stresses. That was in February.
    March I celebrating my daughters 2nd birthday and my 22nd…[Read more]

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    • Please don’t let the stress of life and family get you down @xxbaybayxx, do your best to focus on being there for your boyfriend and daughter Oliver, your move to another state will be successful and you will be happy alongside your family, don’t let the toxic members of your family upset you, focus on the happiness of yourself, your daughter and…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 5 months ago

    Remaking my post from a few minutes ago -

    Moving to a new state is a pain. My 2 year old is on anti-seizure meds and I made sure to refill her prescription before moving. Getting insurance took too long and now I’m down to only having enough meds for her to last till wednesday. She has one refill on it back at home but it’s not like my mother…[Read more]

    Mood : Stressed
    • I’m so sorry that your daughter is not well @xxbaybayxx, do take care of her and I’m sure you will get the right medication to make things better, always remember you are a wonderful, loving and amazing father who is doing right by his family Oliver, everything will be OK, try to stay positive and keep going, you can do it Oliver, feel free to…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted a new activity comment 3 years, 5 months ago

    In reply to: Spectrolite7 posted an update what I went through recently, caused me to cry for hours nonstop because it wasn’t in my control but I got treated in a way that was rude and I was humiliated and kicked out of place […] View

    I’m in the same boat with you on that one. I’m very reserved and it makes me a vulnerable person for people to prey on. This is why I keep one close online friend, otherwise I grew to accept that I didn’t really want more than I have.

    You don’t deserve to feel more pain, for sure. And sometimes you’re just going to need time to yourself so…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 5 months ago

    So I guess I’m back on here for an update.
    As of tuesday I’m officially a resident of New York state. Settled in to the new apartment with my boyfriend and my daughter. It was one hell of a weekend to get here though. Had to make the uhaul late, a car broke down, all kinds of not so fun things, but I enjoyed the trip regardless.
    But it…[Read more]

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    • It’s wonderful to see that you are happy in your new place with your boyfriend and daughter @xxbaybayxx, hope your new home continues to bring you and your family joy Oliver, feel free to inbox me anytime if you ever need to talk about anything, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago

    Once I move and get out of the toxic situation I’m in living with my mother, I think I’m going to push to go to online schooling. My mom has mocked me for years over the fact that I never went to college and always tells me how much of my life I wasted. I want to prove I’m more than she sees, but I want to do it on my own accord. Not just…[Read more]

    • You will achieve your degree in zoology @xxbaybayxx, please know you will be successful Oliver and make all your dreams come true, don’t let your mothers horrible comments bring you down, she should encourage you in whatever you choose to do in life, everything will go your way Oliver and all your goals will become a wonderful reality, hold your…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago

    Finally getting together everything I need to move to New York. I finally got my daughter a birth certificate and it is so…liberating to have that. Because when my ex stopped coming around he made sure to “lose” Emily’s birth certificate and social security card just to mess with me.

    It’s so nice knowing he can’t get to me anymore. He…[Read more]

    • It’s wonderful to see that all the preparations for your move to New York are almost complete @xxbaybayxx, I’m sure things will go amazingly for you, your daughter and your boyfriend when you get there, stay positive Oliver and don’t let your ex have any power over you, stay focused on making yourself and your family happy, everything will work…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ answered question “What are ways to feel more upbeat and happy everyday?3 years, 7 months ago

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago

    Can I also just get a pat on the back for not having ONE suicidal thought in over 2 months? Despite my bouts of depression I’ve been doing so good.
    My anxiety HAS been up though. But I’ve been going through a lot.

    • Please don’t let anxiety get you down @xxbaybayxx, surround yourself with all the things that bring you happiness and smile brightly, I’m so proud of you Oliver, you are doing your best to make each day incredible and not let your struggles bring you down, hold your head up high, know you are a survivor and keep going forward with a sense of…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago

    It’s finally time.
    Time to break the distance between my boyfriend and I. He finally got a 2 bedroom place for my daughter and I to move into with him. I just sent him money for the deposit and got everything taken care of to get ready to go. I should be moving in about a month.

    Now here’s where it’s stressful. My mother. She’s both…[Read more]

    • Your family should be supportive of your move @xxbaybayxx, they should be happy for you Oliver, happy that you are leading a successful and independent live while being an amazing father and parent with your boyfriend, I would talk to your mother about how much her words hurt you, she has no right to say that you are not raising your daughter…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 9 months ago

    I’ve been trying NOT to rely on cbd oil so much but I’m starting to realize how much of an axiety filled mess I am. Constantly. Heck.

    • Try to find good ways to relax and calm yourself @xxbaybayxx, don’t let anxiety get you down Oliver, you are such a strong fighter who truly deserves to make each day fantastic and put yourself at ease, everything will be OK Oliver, keep going forward, focus on all the things that bring you positivity and brightness and never give up, you can do…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 9 months ago

    I’ve been sadly blessed with some bad luck these past few days, and it’s been wavering my mood all over the place.
    First off I traveled on a bus 6 states away from home and I left my purse on one of the buses and didn’t notice till an hour or so after leaving the bus station. They didn’t find it. So I lost my ID, my boyfriend’s paypal card, a…[Read more]

    • Please don’t feel upset or down @xxbaybayxx, good luck and positivity will come your way Oliver, try to enjoy having a wonderful Valentine’s Day with your boyfriend and keep going forward, everything will be OK, focus on making each other smile and feel good, stay upbeat Oliver, you can do it, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay…[Read more]

    • That’s awful, I’m so sorry. I am hoping you can have some good luck and happiness in your life now! Keep being optimistic and do the things you like to do to generate positive energy in your life. Hoping you have a wonderful weekend!

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 3 years, 9 months ago

    I’m finally healing. After all the abuse and hell I went through with my ex. I’m glad that it’s been over a year since I last saw him. I’m finally getting….there. That freedom feeling. The ability to smile and enjoy things again.My depression does sometimes creep in, but it’s not always there.

    It’s so good to travel. To smile, to be happy again.

    • It’s great to see you healing and positive @xxbaybayxx, stay upbeat and keep going forward Oliver, remember your future will be so bright, amazing and wonderful, you will overcome depression and win all your battles Oliver, hold your head up high, smile brightly and never give up, you can do it, always believe in yourself Oliver, inbox me anytime…[Read more]

    • That is beyond great- I am so happy for you! You should be so proud of yourself. Keep moving forward and appreciating that you are healing and growing!

    • I remember that feeling of freedom and healing. When I left my abusive ex, I told myself that I needed to make it to at least a year away from her and then I would know that everything would be alright. I would be okay. This year will mark four years, and it’s unbelievable how much has changed since then.

      I’m glad that you’ve gotten this far…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 4 years, 5 months ago

    On a more positive note, I’ve dived into my love for food and food photography by running and instagram page dedicated to all the food I eat. I’m pretty pleased with all the different stuff I’ve been having, and overall using this instagram account is almost therapeutic to me. It keeps my nerves in check.

    • That’s wonderful @xxbaybayxx, keep taking photos of inspiring things and things that put a smile on your face Oliver, food photos are so great and delicious hehe, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent about anything, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Awesome! I am so happy for you!!

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 4 years, 5 months ago

    I’m not sure what to do in this situation. I love my boyfriend, I love him more than anything….but I notice his friends are always so negative towards him. They mock him, constantly call him a woman, make demeaning memes using photos he’s posted of himself. And it’s honestly taking a toll on me mentally. Especially when their joking turns…[Read more]

    • You and your boyfriend deserve so much better @xxbaybayxx, your boyfriend’s friends should be so ashamed of themselves, they have absolutely no right to treat your boyfriend like that, I would tell your boyfriend to dump them and find friends who will treat him with kindness, love and compassion, hope everything works out for both of you Oliver,…[Read more]

    • @activity it can be two things:

      1) guys have a different notion of friendship and boundaries than women. Some guys see name calling and making fun of stuff, as a way to make their friendship strong. Might not make sense to you, but it does to them? – If it’s the case though, doesn’t mean you have to be confortable with it. You can tell his…[Read more]

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 4 years, 5 months ago

    2017 was one of the hardest years I had ever had to face. I’m surprised I’m doing so well and I’m glad I’m still alive.

    Dealing with abuse is hard. Being yelled at daily, being judged for everything you like to do….and not being able to be yourself is so mentally taxing on you. I spent 2 years wondering what’s wrong with me. Thinking I was…[Read more]

    • You have been through so much and survived, it shows how truly strong, amazing, courageous and brave you are @xxbaybayxx, I’m sure things will go your way in the months and years ahead Oliver, you will be reunited with your daughter and have a wonderful place to live with your boyfriend, I wish you all the best, don’t let the past memories of…[Read more]

    • How incredible and inspirational your strength is. Keep moving forward, don’t let the darkness control you. I am proud <3

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 4 years, 5 months ago

    So the last time I updated this, I think I made mention that I started talking to my ex from highschool again.

    It’s currently June and that man and I are going on 5 months together.

    I’m currently out of a abusive household that my other ex had me trapped in, and got over the pains that they caused me. I’m doing better, eating better, finally…[Read more]

    • It’s so good to read you are in a path that makes you happy @xxbaybayxx. I really hope life keeps bringing you joy and happiness, you deserve it. Keep going!!

    • It’s great to see you happy with how things are in your life @xxbaybayxx, I’m sure things will continue getting better and brighter for you Oliver, smile and keep being the awesome person that you are, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • That’s fantastic news; I am very thrilled for you!

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 4 years, 11 months ago

    Had an ex from years ago message me again. In two days he made me feel better than anyone has in two whole years.
    I’m glad we’re talking again. I needed this.

    • Hopefully you will be able to rekindle a relationship/friendship with your ex @xxbaybayxx, keep smiling because I’m sure things will work out for the both of you Oliver, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

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    ◆☆Oliver☆◆ posted an update 4 years, 11 months ago

    I just gave up on love all together. Been hurt too many times by too many people.
    I’m tired of you ignoring my messages then seeing pictures of you with another woman when you’re supposed to be at work? Really shows the lies you told me. Glad you never cared.

    • You are such a loving, special and amazing person who deserves to be treated right by your partner @xxbaybayxx, you will find true love Oliver, you will meet your soulmate Oliver, everyone deserves someone amazing in their lives, you do too, stay positive and keep going forward, you can do it, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay…[Read more]

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