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    seacat posted an update 5 years, 5 months ago

    It’s been going pretty well these last few months, up until recently. I’m glad to be in school, but I just suck at it so much. I hate talking with professors, because I’m always afraid that I’m going to step on their toes and then they’ll fail/hate me. I just got an angry email from a professor today and I’m going to talk to him tomorrow, but I don’t think I can even organize what I’m going to say to him without choking up. Apparently I didn’t contribute enough on my last group project. That might be true, but in reality, my partner did the whole project on their own immediately after it was assigned, and then didn’t want to spend time working on the project together. I guess I should have told my professor about that earlier, but I didn’t want to cause problems, plus I was busy preparing for other tests, and also horribly sick for a week (I suppose that’s a lot of excuses, but I think they’re all legitimate). I didn’t realize I was in trouble until yesterday, and now I feel like my relationship with this professor is ruined.

    • don’t organize, just relax, and let him talk and say his thing, the professor should let you talk when he’s done and he is not allowed to disturb while you’re telling your thing. also, if he does, and he won’t let you talk, it means that the prof is simply a douchebag. and don’t choke up, i know how it feels like, that’s when you’ve organized what you’re gonna say, but i’m done doing that, i just let it come, and i’ll see what i say. what you will say then comes from the true you, from how you feel from what the prof says. and it’s okay to have a bad relationship with a prof sometimes, pressure in the air, feeling intimidated, feeling negativity. personally i like to have some pressure with people sometimes, it gives me courage to stand up for myself. don’t worry you’ll do fine, but really, don’t organize your words, or you’ll probably be like in the middle in the sentence and forget what you were gonna say.

    • I would try to talk to your professor and see if you can work out a plan to keep yourself on track @suiei, just be honest with him and tell him how things are, I’m sure you will be OK, just do your best, I want to see you happy and achieving all your dreams, you can do it, I’m always here if you need to chat, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • I talked to my prof last week and pretty much did what you said. I just told him what I honestly thought, in a calm manner, and he seemed to understand, but told me that I should ask for help if I run into problems like that in the future. I think we settled the issue, so I’m glad. I still hate talking to most of my professors for some reason, but I’ll try to get over it. Thanks for your advice.

    • Thanks Oli, I talked to him and we settled the issue.