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    Lyn posted an update 8 months, 3 weeks ago

    I havent forgiven someone I knew from grade school. She is sick right now, like really sick, but I dont seem to forget what she made me feel before. I just want to forget this. Why am i the one feeling guilty?

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    • We can’t forget intense things that have hurt us. You shouldn’t forget. But try to forgive her. For your sake. She is sick and she deserves a right to be forgiven for causing you pain and massive discomfort. What she did was wrong and unforgettable – but in order for YOU to successfully move on and feel good about yourself, you should forgive her. Maybe she didn’t know any better. Maybe she is so misguided and so twisted up in her own world she hurt you either unintentionally or intentionally. You don’t have to make her feel like it’s okay what she did. You don’t have to like her. I would practice thinking of her name and of her face and say ”I forgive you” when you are by yourself. Either in your hear or said aloud. Maybe she doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. But you deserve to forgive so that you may feel better and move on. Don’t dwell on what she has caused you – you cannot give her further control of your life. That is not fair to you and this IS something you can control. Time, patience and practice with the forgiving.

    • I agree with @invincible, you shouldn’t forget what she did to you, she had no right to hurt you or make you feel bad @stunnilyn, but try to forgive her as best you can, especially when she is in poor health, it shows that you are truly a brave and compassionate person, do reach out to her and see what happens, like Cecelia says do take time to think about the next steps going forward, hope everything works out positively, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)