- Mood : Drained
I would do what you feel is comfortable for both of you @shesjustsorad, if you both feel the relationship can survive, keep being with each other, if not, maybe you should go your separate ways, hopefully things will work out in a good way Erin, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone (hugs)
You are free to work at it; but to me, it just doesn’t sound like a healthy thing for either of you. If you stick it out, accept that it will be an open relationship in the sense of the occasional affair or third party tryst. You love with your heart, but you should add your brain to the mix. So much drama – is that what you really want in and out of a relationship? Good luck on whatever you choose.
I’ll try to be as honest and nice as possible with this. I hope you genuinly see this as help, because is my intention: you say you want to be with him yet what I read was a very unstable and unhealthy relationship. Now I’m not doubting your feelings but I’m doubting your decision making… If you do stay with him ”forever” it means arguing and this ”disagreements” will last, aswell, forever.
Are you able to be forever with that energy ?
I think you should seriously think about your situation. When a relationship not only had someone being unfaithfull but actually had restraining orders, to me that says to get away from each other as far as possible, is beyond just… unhealthy.
There are thousands of people who would give you their whole heart and love you. Not only that, but you should think that you deserve better. And I’m saying this worried about you, about your future.
Just think about it before you make a final decision.
Once again every single word I said was with a kind intention.
This comment is very well written and with a good train of thought. You should listen to this person at least. I agree with it.