- Mood : Exhausted
@seraphimpatient welcome back I actually remember seeing you quite often around here.
And not going to lie, reading your situation scared me since I’m in the exact same situation…
If you need someone to talk to feel free to message me. You always have help and support here on blah
Hi I remember seeing you as well. I’m sorry the relationship didn’t last but sadly, it happens. If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me. Blah hasn’t been the same in a while but their are still some decent to great people on here
I know a couple that got married a year to the day they met online – about 3,000 miles apart. He is a good fiend. He is 5 years older than her, both were divorced, he was 32 when they first met online.
Met online, began to chat
1 month – talked on phone for the first time, 8hours, then 2.5 hours same day
1.5 months – sent pictures for the first time, so they new what each other looked like; started talking on the phone almost daily. I think they fell in love with each other’s mind before the physical part came in to play)
3 months – he flew to her for a week, she vetted him through her friends (she couldn’t trust her own judgement)
4.5 months – he flew out for a few more days
6 months – she flew to his locale for 4 days
9 months – she moved to his local with 6 boxes
12 months – married
I suggest this as a possible thing – the parties involved have to be willing to move, uproot social and support systems, in order to be together. This may even mean quitting a job to move (hard to do in this economy.
I also know another couple, where he moved to her locale. 9 months and they were married. It isn’t so happy a story. He can’t keep a job, and in real life is an energy and resource suck. She has a good job, running a counselling agency, but is now wishing things were different. I also know a guy that got totally shafted by a girl he met online – divorced and took almost everything.
My anecdotal queries would put successful online relationships (leading to ”semi-permanent” togetherness face to face) at less than 5%. It is hard. It is hard on the emotions, hard to be so far apart. Both parties tend to exaggerate their good qualities and downplay the bad ones, and the other exaggerates them even more because of, well, feelings.
Ultimately, the best advice I have heard is to do the stuff you really like to do, and find a partner doing the same things.
It’s great to have you back on Blah @seraphimpatient, please don’t give up on finding true love, a strong, loving and lasting relationship with someone wonderful will happen to you, hope all your exams go well, stay positive and keep going, you can do it, I’m always here if you ever need to chat or vent, feel free to inbox me anytime, you are never alone (hugs)