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    Robyn97 posted an update 4 months, 1 week ago

    My boyfriend is a bipolar, compulsive liar and I need to know how I can convince him to seriously get help. He’s the controlling type that always needs to have his way. He listens to no one. Extremely difficult and I have been with him 6 months. A lot of others have given up on him. I don’t want to give up yet. I can handle anything, honestly you’d be surprised. I just need advice on what to do. Just don’t say ”leave him” or tell me he’s no good for me or that I can do better. These are things I already know and don’t want to hear. I want to hear how I can help him and help him be better. I see something in him worth fighting for.

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    • I would talk to him about how you feel @robgibb1997, let him know how his behaviour is affecting you Robyn, tell him that you love and care about him and just want the relationship to be stronger and for him to help himself so he can make positive changes in his life which will help both of you, be as honest and open with him as you can Robyn, don’t let him control you or be horrible though, you are a wonderful person deserving of respect and dignity, hope everything works out, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • @robgibb1997 if you stay, you have to check on your on codependency, so that you make the best choices for both of you.

    • @robgibb1997 thing is being realistic you really can’t.. Narcissistic people never admit their own flaws. How can you help him if he doesn’t admit his mistakes? For you to move forward you admit what you do wrong and change it.

      I can say ”go to a therapist” but even therapy in these situations is a very hard case.
      I understand you want to help him but he has to want to be changed. Has to come from him first.
      For a reason people tell you to leave him. One situation is when someone truly wants to change, another is 100% refuse to aknowledge things.
      Either way, is your choise. I hope everything turns out good for you and best of luck.