- Mood : Depressed
Listen, fam. You were like, my first friend on here and I’d hate to see you go.
Im not sure if you’ll see this but you’re amazing, don’t forget that, I’d hate to see you go too seeing how active you are is amazing, and you’ve made so many people happy don’t think that people hate you man, you’re awesome don’t forget that
Hi Oli, just to say thanks for being supportive. Please reconsider! You cheered me up no end just at the right time. You can talk to me, too! You are a lovely, caring person and lots of people care about YOU.
I hope you can come to accept that when you type something in a comment, the person you interact with can not care or appreciate for your effort, and that’s ok and you can respect it and it’s enough to politely back off and try to not interact with them anymore (by keeping a list of people who asked you to not interact with them?). It’s true that you mean good but at the same time, to make a big scene every time someone isn’t really into talking with you is not good, it guilt trips people who have already their problems*, and it harms your ability to interact with people in a normal, adult way, because they will always feel like they can’t have a real interaction with you, since you can’t handle a no. It’s also not good to interact with people only to get positive returns, and to be ready to give up everything if you don’t get paid back for your efforts by them. I hope you get to the spot where you can take it. *Note: of course if they are rude about it, that’s not ok, but in the past people always stuck their neck out to defend you usually and to call those people out, so there’s that.
It is impossible to please every person. Words of advice may help some, and trouble others. It is called ”advice” and we give it for free because it is what it is, a piece of advice. It is not a recipe to happiness, or a magic spell. Quality over quantity; focus on those whom you can help. To them, give it your all. But first, and most importantly… with all the respect Oli, I’ve seen you here constantly. I understand your goal, I truly do, but you cannot help every single individual you come across. And correct me if I am wrong, but your ”excessive” activity in this website is the way you found to cope with your own issues. Overloading yourself with this ”work”, a ”mission” to help people; it aids you in forgetting your own pain. You are hurting your own self, without noticing. Or perhaps you do. Your ideals are noble, but help yourself before trying to help others. Come to terms with your issues, learn from them. I find that the best pieces of advice come from people who learned through suffering, and overcame hardship. The knowledge they acquired from such trials can be used to help others. The classic ”I speak from experience”. Take a brief respite in helping others, or the website in general if so need be. I am sure people in here would love to repay, and help you instead; for all the times you have helped them.
Best of luck,
What seems to be the trouble, Oliver?
You can’t leave. You have helped so many people. I can’t believe how many times I’ve seen your comments. Please stay.
Oli its not your fault… Its advice you give it and they can choose to receive or not. Don’t let this trouble you. And there is no reason you should feel singled out… I’m here for you if you ever want to talk. I will always listen.. Thats a promise
Oli, you are could not be more wrong about upsetting people. Every time I go to the What’s New section, your name is always there, spreading joy. I know that most of the time the ones that seem the happiest are the most hurt, and I hate to see this be the case here. This may just seem to be another person telling you that you are better than you think you are, but I mean it when I say you do MUCH more good than any harm you think you do.
I don’t want you to leave, but if it pains you to stay, I understand. I know I speak for EVERYONE on Blah when I say that you are one of the best things to ever happen to this site.
Thank you for all you have done, and all I hope you still will do.