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    MidnightSarrow posted an update 1 week, 5 days ago

    So i pissed my bf off last night, mad him feel worthless again and he still cares about me?
    I think he should block me and move on tbh, he won’t get badly hurt.

    Whyyyyyy is my relationship this hard like W T F
    this is why i prefer just loving someone from afar. Neither of us can hurt the other- tho, i do mos of the hurting. .

    • I would talk to your boyfriend openly and calmly @midnightsarrow, let him know you care about and love him, you want the best for him and you want to see him happy, I’m sure you will be able to make things better with him and make your relationship stronger and more loving, remember to always be there for each other and always keep the lines of communication open in your relationship, you will work through any issues you have and come out a stronger couple together, hope everything works out, inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)

    • Okay then- So explain to me how to talk to him calmly when
      A. He seems to be avoiding me
      B. He’s not open to communication at the moment
      C. Who knows wtf i could say next to piss him off more

    • @midnightsarrow

      It’s normal to hurt each other in a relationship every once in awhile– mistakes are made, things happen. Minor pain is forgivable and forgettable.

      But the entire situation sounds rather toxic to me. Lack of communication especially? Communicating your problems and the relationship’s issues should be top priority. Without even having the ability to communicate with each other, then where is the relationship together at?

      Personally, I feel there needs to be some growing to do. I don’t know exactly what happened, but I’ve been in toxic relationships before and they never lead anywhere without proper action. As far as they’ll go, is to cause longterm pain and a lot of rewiring to the brain that’s difficult to reverse, let alone fix.

      Funny thing about being in love, though, is that a person can take a lot of hurt when it’s the person they love doing it. Just because something has happened doesn’t mean they’re going to stop caring about you or loving you overnight. That stuff takes time.

      In the end, this could all just be one big bump in the road. You two can end up on the other side with a few bruises, but bruises heal. Experience can strengthen the two of you. But if this is a constant state of affairs for you two; hurting each other, avoiding each other, making up again, then you might have to start thinking about what’s best for the both of you in the long-run.

      You say you think he should block you, move on, and whatnot, but you can also make that decision. And if you’re both more unhappy than you are happy together, it might just be the best thing to do.
      If not? Maybe consider just taking a break from being together. Relationships can be exhausting, especially with so much going on like this all the time. A break can help both of you cool off and clear your heads. Come back with open minds and prepared to handle your relationship seriously, with actual communication and solutions to prevent future hurt and fighting.

      You have to ask yourself what the causes are, why it happens, and how to prevent it from happening again in the future. He would have to do the same. With that, you both can better yourselves for each other, or for the future.

    • A break? He’ll take that as a break up and get more pissed off ;-;

      It’s so freaking difficult, i don’t belong in relationships. I belong in friendships cuz I end up being more unstable otherwise. A short relationship i can do, ish.