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    Marta posted an update 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I’ve been a people pleaser since I can remember. I used to feel bad when somebody asked for something, and I said no… I felt such guilt and shame… I even thought it was not OK to refuse. Fortunately, I’m more gentle with myself, and if I can’t do it or if I DON’T WANT, I say no without guilt or remorse. This goes to everyone who actually feels like I used to feel in the past. If someone gets mad at you because you don’t want to do something, that’s their problem, not yours. You are not being egoistic, you are listening to yourself and doing what it’s right for you. There’s a lot of narcissists and people with victim complex who will take advantage of people pleasers. Be aware of them, and never be afraid to say NO.

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    • It’s OK to say no @m1s1m3, don’t be afraid to refuse things especially if they make you feel sad or uncomfortable, remember to always stand up for yourself and don’t let anything or anyone pressure you into things you don’t want, always do what you feel is right for you beautiful angel Marta and always be good to yourself, I’m always here if you need a friend Marta, feel free to inbox me anytime if you want to chat or vent, stay strong, you are never alone :) <3 (hugs)

    • Thank you so much for your kind words, my dear @oliver :) . It is true, we must stand up for ourselves, and don’t let others take advantge of our kindness. I’m always here for you too, my dear friend. Stay strong and keep going on, you are amazing :D