I’ve been a people pleaser since I can remember. I used to feel bad when somebody asked for something, and I said no… I felt such guilt and shame… I even thought it was not OK to refuse. Fortunately, I’m more gentle with myself, and if I can’t do it or if I DON’T WANT, I say no without guilt or remorse. This goes to everyone who actually feels like I used to feel in the past. If someone gets mad at you because you don’t want to do something, that’s their problem, not yours. You are not being egoistic, you are listening to yourself and doing what it’s right for you. There’s a lot of narcissists and people with victim complex who will take advantage of people pleasers. Be aware of them, and never be afraid to say NO.