I'm a bisexual NYer in my forties in a long-term open marriage. I work as a paralegal and am also a writer. I've weathered two disasters in the past three years: the suicide of my 20-year-old nephew and the subsequent death of his mother from a drug overdose so I've had a crash course in grief. I've also grappled successfully with my eating issues; having lost 100 lbs and maintained the weight loss for almost 20 years.