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    sad smiley posted an update 6 years, 10 months ago

    Hope someone could help me, everything’s been fine lately. I met this guy online in December and we’re still talking. I know he’s not a creep (I checked every social media and everything, heard his voice saw him in videos etc) but now he would like to meet, and I would too. The problem is I feel so stressed out, what to wear, what if I don’t look as good in real life as on pictures (you always look good on selfies right?). Also I can be very awkward at first and I really don’t want it to be awkward, I want it to be like our convo’s we have every day… I dont know anyone with any tips?

    Mood : Anxious
    • Firstly, I’d suggest a public setting. You may think you know, but you never know, so take every precaution before meeting someone you first met online. Otherwise, be casual. In person will be an extension of the association you already have with him. Once your together the interaction should flow naturally as you guys talk about what you typically would. If you ever want this person to be more than just a random person online, then meeting has to happen, and the fact that you at least have some background and previous interaction with him should actually make things smoother than when you meet someone in person for the first time ever and neither of you know anything about the other, so you don’t even know where to start. You at least have a start.

    • Hope all goes well when you meet this guy @justagxrl, do stay safe and look after yourself, meet him in public and do your best to talk to each other in an open and confident way, you can do it, I’m sure you will be OK :)

    • @justagxrl I think could try to give up the idea that it can be perfect and natural: from talking with people who met after a long distance relationship, there’s no escaping a short period of awkwardness as you try to match the person in front of you to the idea of them you have in your head. It will be okay as you both try to work through it, and will be a cute memory one day. He probably has some favorite outfits of yours, ask him if he has suggestions. :)