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    Janna posted an update 6 years, 5 months ago

    I’ve been trying to discern my orientation, and I’m pretty sure that I’m not into guys. It registers if a guy has an aesthetically pleasing face/body, but it has never gotten further than that. Additionally, imagining a future with anyone male seems… off.

    I’ve never had a crush on anyone except two teachers (female). Then there have been a couple of celebrity crushes (also female). So from that, it kind of makes sense I would identify as gay, yet what makes me hesitant about that is that I’m not at all attracted to people who are considered to be ”attractive” or ”hot”. The people I have had crushes on had little tweaks embedded among their facial features which, along with their voice, character etc. I liked. I feel like if I told people I was gay then those with model-like faces are going to be who I’m expected to be attracted to, but I’m not. To be honest, I find them boring and even irritating. I’m even not very fussed about boobs very much. I wouldn’t have any desire to sleep with someone because of their body or any other aspect of their appearance alone.
    (btw I’m well aware that asking others on the internet what they think a stranger’s sexual orientation is seems a little pointless considering that really, only I can be the judge of myself, and that I probably shouldn’t need to restrict myself with a label anyway, but 1) an outside perspective can be really helpful, and 2) using a ’label’ is mainly for the purpose of knowing how to navigate my way through dating, as well as the fact that it would be nice to have a name for this which isn’t ”I don’t know”.)

    • How about queer? Some people prefer umbrella terms and avoid the hassle of fitting one label. @janna Maybe something along the demisexual spectrum, since you need to spend some time observing them and knowing them before something clicks.