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    Cecelia posted an update 1 year, 5 months ago

    Beyond stressed. I feel both my parent and partner tugging at me and I am losing myself in the process.. it’s very triggering because it’s reminiscent of my childhood. Emotionally gaslit by my parent and her having control over everything and i just feel paralyzed from the trauma and loss of control. All the pressure and stress from my intense partner. I just need alone time but i’m never a priority … not even to myself. Suffering. Thank god work is here to distract me.

    • Your parents and your partner should treat you with love and always be there to support you @invincible, you are such a lovely, wonderful and amazing angel who deserves happiness in your life sweetheart, don’t let them gaslight or bully you Cecelia, you have been through so much sweetie and come out as a brave, strong survivor Cecelia, please don’t let your past trauma break you down, I would talk to your parents and partner if you can and let them know that their behaviour is negatively affecting you sweetie, I want to see you truly happy because you deserve to be loved and cared for Cecelia, always be kind to yourself because you matter to me and so many others Cecelia, I will always be here for you Cecelia, keep smiling sweetie and never give up, you can do it angel, stay strong, you are never alone, feel free to inbox me anytime if you ever need to chat or vent :) <3 (hugs)

    • That last line just hit right in the spot… You are not a priority to yourself. It did hit a soft spot to me too, because I’m the same way. It’s very difficult to change that if it’s something you’ve been doing for a long time. Even so, you have to treat yourself with the same kindness and love that you would treat a loved one. This won’t change the way that others treat you, but you deserve to receive that love from yourself to yourself ❤. Try to talk to your partner about your needs and boundaries. If you need more alone time than him, he should respect it, and give you support with your controlling parent.

    • I view life as a mathematical consequence game, and sometimes one problem leads to another, and you may feel that everything wrong had to happen simultaneously. My solution to this was practising discipline about how I react to situations and turn those hardships into lessons to be learned or challenges to be won.