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    perplexedenigma posted an update 8 years, 5 months ago

    How can I ”re”come out to my parents? As you may already know, I had already come out to my mom as trans, and she didn’t take it well, disregarding my request to be called by male pronouns, and be called Nathan, apparently as told to her by my dad. I overheard their conversation one day, and he had just told her to ignore it, and that it was just a phase, and basically, that I was an attention whore. I’m planning to try again, basically, on National Coming Out Day (October 11th, if you didn’t know). I don’t have any clue how to do it, though. I don’t want to come up to them and be like ”I’m trans deal wid it” or use a note, like I did last time, since it was apparently thrown away. It seems like my mom is very open to trans people, and respects all of their choices, but not mine. She even is ok with me getting a pixie cut, shockingly. I had told her earlier, and now I just have to convince my dad… But anyway, how should I approach this this time? I’m thinking of just writing another note, but this time, not handing it to either of them, and just kind of basing what I’d say off of it. I really don’t know how to come about it, though. :/ I might just post the note on here, and just try and get feedback, I don’t know… Oh, and then there’s the issue of my friends… I might as well just try and wait until October 11th to come out to everyone…

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    • It might be difficult for me to come up with a perfect answer to your problem, but I’ll pray for you. Everything will happen for the better. When feeling down think of this : Earth life system is a training ground. We are born to stumble and learn.. that’s how life is. So don’t let anything let you down. Think of every challenge as a level of a video game and move forward! And when things get worse and you feel that your life sucks.. then chances are that you were given difficult levels in your life, because you can take it! Believe in yourself, and make rational decisions. Stay motivated. Message me if things worsen. I’ll be around ;)
      Oh! and if you find animes or cartoons tolerable, try watching the show which I recommended :P
      ”Your Lie in April” !
      Inbox me if you want the web link.

    • And yeah.. as for a real solution to your problem, I bet someone out here might have a better answer than me. So I’m resting my case here. Still if you don’t get to find people who’d help out, I’ll be happy to discuss these things. Apparently I have an interview coming… so it is cumbersome to focus on other things.
      Hope everything goes well!

    • Maybe your parents don’t understand what trans mean. Maybe if they had more information they could change their ideals. Because they’re not going through what you’re going through, you know? The parents job is to accept their kid no matter what. And if they don’t do that, no matter how much it hurts, I would recommend you to sorround yourself with people who truly accept you for who you are. You can be happy being yourself, trust me. Be strong, and good luck. Also if you ever someone to talk to I’m right here

    • I would try to talk to your parents @iloveandhatelife, explain to them that this is who you truly are and who you truly want to be, your parents really should love and accept you no matter what, be proud of who you truly are deep down, I hope things turn out well for you, I’m sure you will meet compassionate people who will love you for who you are, don’t give up, I’m always here if you need to talk, message me anytime if you want, my inbox is always open, stay strong, you are never alone :) (hugs)